Her Friend Told Her She’s Worried About How Her Anxiety Issues Will Affect Her Wedding, So She Said She Wasn’t Going To The Wedding Now

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I feel bad for people who have terrible social anxiety and can’t deal with it when there are a lot of eyes on them at an event.

It sucks!

But I also think that sometimes you have to power through certain situations no matter how uncomfortable they are.

The woman who wrote this story on Reddit clearly has some big issues and she wants to know if she was out of line for how she handled this situation.

Check out what she had to say…

“My friend [27/f] asked me [28/f] to be one of her bridesmaids for her wedding.

She was my maid of honor two years ago, and before that, we’d always say we’d be each other’s maid of honor (we’ve been friends for 20 years).

She wasn’t expecting this.

When she asked me to be a bridesmaid, it stung a bit, to be honest, but seeing as she has a twin sister that she is close to, it made sense that she should be her maid of honor.

The issue I really had with this is that at one point, before I did barely anything as a bridesmaid, she told me, “You don’t have to stand with the other bridesmaid’s during the wedding.”

Her friend finally told her the truth.

I found it weird that she was saying that, but I replied, “no, I want to be there with all of you”. After a bit of back and forth, she admitted she doesn’t want me standing there with everyone because of my fear of being the center of attention and my social anxiety.

She was worried that I would have a panic attack just like I did standing there at my own wedding.

Honestly, it was bad during my wedding because I was shaking and couldn’t breathe, and everyone’s terrified reaction made it even worse for me.

Yikes…

I had to leave and come back to just me, my husband, and my mother to continue our vows and such while everyone else moved on to the reception. I couldn’t even go join them until I was intoxicated enough to not feel embarrassed.

I’ve been to therapy since then and have made huge progress regarding my social anxiety and my best friend knows this. I felt hurt that she didn’t trust me enough to let me stand with the others.

I told her I was so much calmer and less anxious now, and I won’t even be the center of attention like I was when I was the bride. She said she acknowledged my improvement but just doesn’t want to take chances.

She said she doesn’t want to embarrass me again and that she would just feel worried about me the whole time, and was also worried that I would ruin the mood of the wedding if I did happen to have a panic attack.

She made a big decision.

I eventually told her that I’d just rather be a guest if I can’t do all the bridesmaid stuff. On the day of her wedding, I was just so sick to my stomach with hurt and sadness that I was merely going as a guest to her wedding that I just decided not to go because I felt so left out.

Now she is very mad at me for making her feel bad at her wedding. She thinks I was trying to hurt her and make her feel guilty because of what she thinks was a reasonable request. I didn’t mean to hurt her but I just couldn’t go because I was overwhelmed with hurt.

The people I’ve talked to are all divided on who is the ******* in this situation. I feel bad for ruining her mood on her wedding day but I still feel what she asked of me was hurtful.

AITA in this situation?”

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

This reader said a mouthful.

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Another Reddit user said she’s an *******.

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This individual spoke up.

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Another reader chimed in.

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And this person also said she’s an *******.

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Yikes…this woman needs some help ASAP!

If you liked that post, check out this post about a woman who tracked down a contractor who tried to vanish without a trace.

Source: https://twistedsifter.com/2024/07/her-friend-told-her-shes-worried-about-how-her-anxiety-issues-will-affect-her-wedding-so-she-said-she-wasnt-going-to-the-wedding-now/

Caitlin Clark Candidly Explained Why She Skipped The WNBA’s 3-Point Contest

Caitlin Clark is not going to the Olympics as a member of USA Basketball, but she will get the chance to compete against the red, white, and blue before they make their way over to Paris. Clark was selected to the WNBA All-Star Game, which will see some of the top players in the league take on Team USA in Phoenix on Saturday night.

The game will be the only thing Clark does over the weekend, as she did not participate in the Skills Challenge or 3-Point Contest on Friday night. While Clark’s skill-set lends itself extremely well to both of those events, she explained to Michele Steele of ESPN that she frankly just needed a break.

“To be honest, I’m pretty mentally, physically, emotionally exhausted,” Clark said at the 1:10 mark of the above video. “I’ve been competing for a year straight, tolls can be taken, and obviously, I’ve been very fortunate to have so many great opportunities over the course of the last year, and I know there’s gonna be so many more great opportunities for me to come.”

Clark stressed that she’ll be in the event at some point down the road, but that she’s proud of herself for giving herself a break. The spotlight has been on Clark for years at this point, but she’s in the middle of an especially difficult stretch because of the brutal transition from the college basketball season to playing in the WNBA, which holds its draft in mid-April before the season tips off a month later. The good news for Clark is that she’s about to get a bit of time to decompress, as the league takes a break from July 21 to August 14 for the Olympics.

Source: https://uproxx.com/dimemag/caitlin-clark-explains-skipped-wnba-3-point-contest-video/

‘They’ll put it on file’: Former Costco worker shares how you can get banned from making returns


Costco, known and loved for its variety of merchandise and affordability, has recently enjoyed some time in the spotlight for another aspect of its service to customers: An excellent return policy.

From returning Christmas trees and decorations after the holiday is over, to a whole couch after using it for two years, customers have flaunted their ability to utilize the bulk item store’s policy.

But overusing this policy might lead to some customers being barred from making additional, more legitimate returns in the future, according to a former Costco employee. Previously, TikToker @psychoz28 has garnered attention for providing commentary on a customer’s claim that they were able to return a play set used by their child since 2008. Now, the former Costco and Aldi manager is providing additional information for customers who may be abusing the retailer’s return policy.

Beware of abusing the return policy

In a video shared to TikTok that has drawn over 62,000 views on the platform, @psychoz28 advises viewers that while it may get noted somewhere that a customer repeatedly returns items and eventually they may get blocked from making returns at all after a point, they will most likely not have their membership impacted.

“I get questions like this all the time,” he says in the video. “No matter how many times you return something, they won’t ever really kick you out. They’ll put it on file that you keep trying to return things, and there will be a block in there so it won’t allow you to return anything anymore, but your membership will still be active, you can still use it at the register.”

Being barred from making returns will not come after a series of legitimate returns, he said.

“My last example was about somebody returning a play set, something like this,” he says. “So in order to get blocked here, you’d have to do something like returning your electronics every 87 days just to get a new one so you wouldn’t have to actually pay it outright. That would get you blocked. That’s what they would consider something like a pattern of returns.”

Whether or not a customer gets banned from making returns can also boil down to how the returns are noted by an employee, he said.

“Whenever you do go to return something there’s a section at the bottom of the return screen on the employee side that says ‘reason for return,'” he says.

The creator claims that most of the time the employee will leave it blank, but if they deem the reason for return “crazy,” they’ll fill it out.

“For example, that play set we just saw, you would put in the comments something like, ‘returned a play set because his kid grew up, be careful of anything he tries to return going forward,'” he says.

The Daily Dot has reached out to @psychoz28 via comment on the video and TikTok direct message as well as to Costco via contact form regarding the video.

@psychoz28 Replying to @mywifemademe costco returns clarification!#greenscreen #costco #wholesale #retail #returns #membership #customerservice ♬ original sound – PsychoZ28

Should you return items repeatedly?

Even if Costco did accept these returns of heavily used products, there may still be an element of fraud involved. The practice of purchasing and returning items with the direct intent of using them for only a short time before taking them back to the store is a form of fraud known as “wardrobing.” While customers are likely not wearing the play set or couch they purchased from Costco, using the product to its fullest and intending to return it to the retailer may represent a different version of this kind of fraud.

Some viewers shared that they had seen returns at Costco and similar retailers that crossed the line from legitimate return to abuse of the policy—and some resulted in the customer being banned.

“My costco had a guy return snow blower, then go buy lawn tractor. return that in fall to buy a new snow plower, repeat cycle till caught,” one commenter wrote.

“I’ve seen on their screen it says ‘customer notes exist’ they also blocked me from purchasing anything online,” another commented.

“Frmr employee:it’s the used BBQ the Monday morning of the long weekends or super bowl,” a commenter wrote.

Other viewers shared that they had made similar returns of large items with no issue.

“My mom did something similar,” a commenter wrote. “Had a play set for a year, two at max, but it became a home to black widows and grandkids couldn’t ever use it. Returned it no problem.”

“i returned an inflatable hot tub after 3-4 years,” another wrote. “No problemo.”

“I returned a Christmas tree cause the bottom lights all burnt out 3 years later,” one said.

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Gwyneth Paltrow Shared A Rare Photo With Her Two Kids

Gwyneth answered in the most on-brand way: “This is something I still work on. Especially if, you know, I fucked something up or made a mistake, or behaved in a way retrospectively that is upsetting. We’re human. We’re all human, and so we make errors. We do human things. It’s easy to feel good or accept yourself when you’re in a good moment with yourself. If not, I think that’s when all the work comes in and all the tools and really forgiving yourself and understanding your humanity and being gentle with yourself, and also trying to meditate on what’s truly at your essence and how to stay connected to that.”

Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/mychalthompson/gwyneth-paltrow-kids-rare-photo

Postpartum Mother Got A Scale As A Gift From Her Own “Almond Mom,” And The Internet Is Furious

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A postpartum mom has thanked her “Almond Mom” for a gift she said is helping her into motherhood – but the internet has railed against it!

If you haven’t heard of the term Almond Mom – it basically means a parent who took strict control of their kids’ diets, swapping out sugary treats for healthy snacks.

But even though new mom Rei (@rei.dec) loved the gift, the internet is calling it “toxic.”

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Rei told her followers she was the child of an Almond Mon and that mentality is now impacting her into adulthood and motherhood.

She said “In case you’re wondering what it’s like to have an ‘almond mom.’ I will tell you. I am four months postpartum. My parents visited me this weekend.”

She continued: “This is what my mom brought me? As a gift.”

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She showed her followers electronic scales and a folder on dieting tips! This was a post baby present four months after giving birth!

The documents include an illustration of a female body, with different measurements.

One page reads: “Charting My Progress Measurements” followed by another reading, “We suggest measuring on a weekly basis.”

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The new mom said: “Charting my progress,” and smiled into the camera, sticking her thumb up.

The internet was far from impressed.

Right now there’s a huge movement towards body positivity and a backlash against diet culture.

Is it a good idea to encourage a new mom to diet and shouldn’t it be her call and her call alone, if she wants to?

Watch the full clip here:

@rei.dec

✨Children of almond moms support group president ✨ #postpartum #postpartumbody #momsoftiktok #almondmom #bodypositive

♬ original sound – Rei

Here’s what people thought of the clip:

People are NOT impressed.

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Folks are concerned about this style of parenting.

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Accusations of toxicity!

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Some people have a long way to go when it comes to eschewing diet culture.

Or just being a decent human being.

If you enjoyed that story, read this one about a mom who was forced to bring her three kids with her to apply for government benefits, but ended up getting the job of her dreams.

Source: https://twistedsifter.com/2024/07/this-postpartum-mother-got-a-scale-as-a-gift-from-her-own-almond-mom-and-the-internet-is-furious/

‘My mom is a Temu victim’: People are sharing the items that prove their parents fell victim to online shopping


You can truly get anything on Temu. Like AliExpress and Wish before them, Temu has cornered the market on having all the odd, niche things that your heart could desire. But it’s a slippery slope from being a Temu stan to a victim of Temu.

If you’re one of those who hadn’t heard about the sight before their catchy ad that debuted during the Super Bowl, Temu offers a vast array of useful, fun, and fashionable items for very low prices. They’ve grown exponentially in recent years, but let’s just say not all of their products are total hits.

Megan Fox recently talked about how her own Temu order disappointed on an episode of Call Her Daddy, saying, “I ordered a bunch of stick-on tattoos and fun things to do with my kids, and some of them were fake sleeves because I’m like, ‘Oh my kids will love to do this.'”

@callherdaddy

I think we can ALL relate to Megan when she says she’s a victim of Temu 😂 A simple purchase for her kids turned into her immediately making an appointment for a full-sleeve 👏👏

♬ original sound – Call Her Daddy

These victims of Temu are all around us.

Now, TikTokers have been calling out their moms, grandmas, and aunties for becoming Temu victims.

Moms are making at-home spaces unique

If you’re a glam girlie, there are tons of finds on Temu. From hair and makeup to glam gadgets, mirrors, and more, there’s something for everyone. This one mom went all out in her bathroom showing the many organizers and products that Temu has to offer:

@frank_hater2000 But lowkey me too, atleast we in it together. If she spends 100 i spend 100 #girlsgirl #temu #temuviral #fyp #trending #someonepleasetakemycardawaybeforeigointomassamountsofdebtandiliterallyloseeverythingbcofappsliketemulikewhoneedsallthisstuffapparentlymebutthatsbesidesthepoint ♬ I Wouldnt Mind – ♱

A lot of moms appear to get their matching bathroom decor from Temu, no matter how wild the print or pattern. There are these dolphins who frolic among glitter diamonds in the sea:

@luvly.minori

♬ hahah do it jiggle – tane

If you’ve got a favorite character, you’ve got the ability to deck your whole house out in their likeness. This TikTok pokes fun at a hot pink, Hello Kitty-themed bathroom set:

@cavir.n omggg 😭😭 #fyp #xybca #hastag #meme #temu ♬ 오리지널 사운드 – k – neo

Then there’s this giraffe, part AI cuteness and part staring directly into your soul (but sweetly so):

@dalylarity Well… at least the giraffe is cute 😭😭😭 #fyp#fypage#temu#lmao ♬ I Wouldnt Mind – ♱

This pink, glittery Lilo & Stitch bathroom is cute, but also sooooo pink:

@morekyliebress It‘s cute tho 😫 #temu #trend #viral #pink #bathroom #corquette #cute #foryoupage #foryou #fypシ ♬ I Wouldnt Mind – ♱

There are curtains, carpets, and themes galore. Whether you’re inspired by an aesthetic, a culture, or a character, there’s a bathroom set that brings it all together.

@ha.mar.rah

Helpp…

♬ I Wouldnt Mind – ♱

When it comes to the kitchen, Temu doesn’t play around. You can find every kind of organizer, dispenser, and container you’ve ever dreamed of. This video alone shows two different dry goods dispensers:

@irsaslife Not the spices😭😭 #temuvictim #temu #desimom ♬ I Wouldnt Mind – ♱

Then there are the water jugs for humans that lowkey look like they’re inspired by hamsters:

@halloitsana She is the funniest. I love her i promise. #temu #mom #fyp #pov ♬ Nasty – Tinashe

And that’s not to mention the decor, which can truly leave endless possibilities for kitchen themes.

Temu has live, laugh, love’d quite a few living rooms

If you’ve ever dreamed about gathering around the brick chimney fire in the cold weather months, you can get the vibe without the flames (or major construction), like this mom who DIY’d a whole mantle:

@dr.pepper.666 i came over to visit and she said “its my new chimney! (it’s wallpaper) guess where i got it!” i wish u guys could feel tjis monstrosity #temu ♬ I Wouldn't Mind (Sped Up) – He Is We

There are plenty of dads who are victims of Temu, too

Moms aren’t the only ones who are finding Temu has a lot to offer them. Temu dads are very much a thing and people aren’t hesitating to call them out either.

Dads can’t get enough of car accessories and Temu has no shortage of them. This sunshade has this dad straight-up elated:

@goofykidd123_ Temu kings new “lil sunscreen thing” 🤦🏻‍♀️ #persian #persiandad #temu #temuking #sunshade #accent #baba ♬ original sound – G O O F

And if your dad is a knick-knack guy, forget it! Temu has a magnetic draw, with little accessories and items celebrating every dad hobby you can think of:

@annabailey01 Theres a new package coming in every day. #temu ♬ original sound – Funny Sound Effects

This dad’s whole identity is Temu dad and I love someone who embraces their truth:

@ashleygeorge06 Only a few more days before Temu dad moves to Myrtle Beach #fyp #temudad #temu #temuhaul #dadsoftiktok #daddaughter #dad #clotheshaul #chaoticreviews ♬ original sound – Ashley George

The Temu “just trying” to Temu victim pipeline is real. Let this serve as a warning: when you’re labeling doors and keeping reference material that isn’t entirely relevant to you, it may be time to turn away from Temu.


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Joel Embiid Believes Injuries Have Kept Him From Being In The GOAT Conversation

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Joel Embiid is headed to the Olympics as a member of USA Basketball. Despite being born in Cameroon and eligible to represent France in international play, Embiid made the decision to suit up on the international stage for the United States, which gives the Americans even more ammunition as they head to Paris with their eyes on winning a fifth gold medal in a row.

Doing that would be one of the high points of Embiid’s career, right up there with the time he was named league MVP. Unfortunately, team success hasn’t followed him in his NBA tenure, thanks in large part to horribly timed injuries. In fact, during a recent sit down interview with the New York Times, Embiid expressed his belief that the way injuries have prevented him from becoming a champion has hurt his case for being the greatest player of all time.

“I think so,” Embiid said when asked if he’d be in the GOAT conversation without injury problems. “I think I’m that talented. Obviously you need to win championships, and to win championships you need other guys. You can’t do it by yourself. I want to win so bad. But if you don’t, you just got to understand that as long as you care about the right stuff, if it doesn’t happen, maybe it wasn’t meant to happen. So, yeah — I kind of forgot the question.”

After getting reminded what the question was, Embiid said, “Yeah. If you think about it, the thing that stopped me all these years is just freak injuries. Every single playoffs, regular season, people falling on my knee or breaking my face — twice. It’s always freak injuries at the wrong time.”

Embiid has objectively suffered some absolutely brutal injuries at terrible times during his career, which have played a role in his well-documented playoff roles. He’s famously never made it past the Eastern Conference semis, and he’s gone from averaging 27.9 points per game on 50.4 percent shooting from the field and 34.1 percent shooting from three during the regular season to averaging 24.9 points on 45.9 percent shooting from the field and 28.9 percent shooting from three in the playoffs. At the same time, even beyond injuries and illness, a player of Embiid’s caliber is expected to perform to a higher standard in the postseason, and he just hasn’t been able to consistently do that.

The good news for Embiid is that the Philadelphia 76ers are as well-positioned to compete in the Eastern Conference as they have been during his tenure with the franchise. Between himself, the recently-extended Tyrese Maxey, and prized free agent acquisition, the team has arguably the best big three in the NBA. Whether or not this helps get Embiid into the GOAT conversation should he remain healthy, however, remains to be seen.

Source: https://uproxx.com/dimemag/joel-embiid-injuries-goat-conversation/

Big Sean Rejects The ‘Bullsh*t’ Fan Theory That Kanye West Leaked His Music

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Big Sean has proved time and time again that he’s going to ride with his home team. This brother of musical bandits, still includes Kanye West (Ye). Yesterday (July 19), the “Precision” rapper made that clear.

During a livestream, Big Sean shutdown online fan theories that Ye was the person behind his supposed Better Me Than You album leaks.

“I know he didn’t do that because look at this,” he said. “You see this plaque right here? That’s 185 million records sold under GOOD Music. I love GOOD Music. He done made more money off my music than I did.”

Although Pusha T, GOOD Music’s former president, has hanged up his public support of Ye, Big Sean surely hasn’t. In fact, Big Sean stood by Ye’s character while doubling down on the rejection of rumors that he could have professionally betrayed him.

“I had access to a lot of exclusive [things],” he said. “[And it’s] not just him—other people too. I would never leak nobody’s sh*t. So I know he ain’t do that. Whoever started that rumor, y’all on some bullsh*t.”

Watch the full clip below.

Better Me Than You is out August 9 via FF to Def Entertainment. Find more information here.

Source: https://uproxx.com/music/big-sean-denies-kanye-west-leaked-music-response-video/

27 Clothing Pieces From Amazon To Refresh Your Wardrobe

Note: Some reviewers suggest sizing down.

Promising review: “I bought this for Busch Gardens and when I took it out of the bag, I was disappointed with how heavy the material felt. I shoved it back in the bag and tried to find another outfit. I was unable to find one on time, so I pulled this back out and tried it on. OMGGGG, AMAZING!!! This was literal perfection. You will not be disappointed. GET IT!! I will say it runs a hair too large, so if in between sizes, size down.” —Lil Nik

Price: $30.99 (available in sizes XS–XXL and 24 colors)

Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/isabellasarlija/if-you-want-to-refresh-your-wardrobe-this-weekend-here-are

‘He only drives 4,000 miles per year’: Mechanic reveals how often you should change your oil if you don’t drive a lot


On the internet, there’s a pretty standard piece of advice regarding oil changes. The advice goes like this: After 3,000 miles, you should change your oil.

While common, this advice is hotly contested. As noted by Popular Mechanics, “Your average 3,000-mile quickie-lube sticker gives you a general suggestion of when to change your oil based on a really severe maintenance schedule.”

“The real authority you should consult first…is the owner’s manual for your vehicle,” add authors Ezra Dyer and Stef Schrader. “Different vehicles have different maintenance needs, especially with recent advances in automotive technology that have pushed some newer cars’ oil change intervals out to 7,500 or 10,000 miles, or once every six to 12 months.”

However, does this advice apply if you’re only using the car occasionally? The question is understandable—and now, a mechanic on TikTok has the answer.

When you should change your oil if you don’t drive often

The TikTok account for Royalty Auto Service (@royaltyautoservice) frequently posts advice about cars and car maintenance. For example, the account previously discussed what a mechanic looks for during a full checkup, as well as the top five vehicles that are most expensive to repair. 

Now, the account has inspired conversation again with a new video, this time concerning the frequency with which one should change their oil.

Responding to a viewer’s question about how often one should change their oil if they only drive 4,000 miles per year, the mechanic says that navigating this situation can involve a variety of factors.

The main factor, he says, is “100% mileage—within reason.”

“Let’s give him as a perfect example. He’s driving 4,000 miles a year,” the mechanic starts. “Then what I would tell him is, come in for your oil service. OK, you get your oil service done, and then at six months away from that, come in, let us just check the tire pressures, check the fluid levels, you know, just shake the front end down, check the tires themselves. Let’s just be sure everything’s OK.”

“Then, come back in six months later, Do an oil service. He’s basically doing oil service once a year, but at least every six months he’s coming in for us to look the car over. Just really, generally just to be sure it’s safe,” he continues. “Even though you’re not driving very far, you don’t want to go a whole year without somebody at least looking at the car to be sure that it’s safe.”

How in need of an oil change a car might be can also depend on the style of driving with which one is using it.

“If you’re just stopping [and] going around town, that’s pretty tough on oil. If you’re saying the car sits for a week at a time, and then I make an hour trip…once every weekend—it’s a weekend car—then, that’s not as bad on the oil,” the mechanic says. “But if you’re just doing a couple of miles a day on the oil, that’s pretty tough.”

@royaltyautoservice Always stay on top of your maintenance! #mechaniclife #mechanicsoftiktok #oilchange #cartok #diy #viral #fyp #foryou #tips ♬ Pop beat BGM / long version(1283324) – nightbird_bgm

Viewers share their own oil change experiences

In the comments section, users shared their own thoughts on oil changes.

“I change my oil once every 2 years or 25k,” a user claimed.

“And they won’t tell you many newer cars can go up to 10k miles between changes,” added another.

“Hmm kinda agree. work from home… drive my gas saver when needed…put only 1k miles on my truck per year and replace the oil only once a year,” stated a third.

The Daily Dot reached out to Royalty Auto Service via its website contact form.

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‘He only drives 4,000 miles per year’: Mechanic reveals how often you should change your oil if you don’t drive a lot


Mechanic reveals how often you should be changing the oil if you don't drive a lot

On the internet, there’s a pretty standard piece of advice regarding oil changes. The advice goes like this: After 3,000 miles, you should change your oil.

While common, this advice is hotly contested. As noted by Popular Mechanics, “Your average 3,000-mile quickie-lube sticker gives you a general suggestion of when to change your oil based on a really severe maintenance schedule.”

“The real authority you should consult first…is the owner’s manual for your vehicle,” add authors Ezra Dyer and Stef Schrader. “Different vehicles have different maintenance needs, especially with recent advances in automotive technology that have pushed some newer cars’ oil change intervals out to 7,500 or 10,000 miles, or once every six to 12 months.”

However, does this advice apply if you’re only using the car occasionally? The question is understandable—and now, a mechanic on TikTok has the answer.

When you should change your oil if you don’t drive often

The TikTok account for Royalty Auto Service (@royaltyautoservice) frequently posts advice about cars and car maintenance. For example, the account previously discussed what a mechanic looks for during a full checkup, as well as the top five vehicles that are most expensive to repair. 

Now, the account has inspired conversation again with a new video, this time concerning the frequency with which one should change their oil.

Responding to a viewer’s question about how often one should change their oil if they only drive 4,000 miles per year, the mechanic says that navigating this situation can involve a variety of factors.

The main factor, he says, is “100% mileage—within reason.”

“Let’s give him as a perfect example. He’s driving 4,000 miles a year,” the mechanic starts. “Then what I would tell him is, come in for your oil service. OK, you get your oil service done, and then at six months away from that, come in, let us just check the tire pressures, check the fluid levels, you know, just shake the front end down, check the tires themselves. Let’s just be sure everything’s OK.”

“Then, come back in six months later, Do an oil service. He’s basically doing oil service once a year, but at least every six months he’s coming in for us to look the car over. Just really, generally just to be sure it’s safe,” he continues. “Even though you’re not driving very far, you don’t want to go a whole year without somebody at least looking at the car to be sure that it’s safe.”

How in need of an oil change a car might be can also depend on the style of driving with which one is using it.

“If you’re just stopping [and] going around town, that’s pretty tough on oil. If you’re saying the car sits for a week at a time, and then I make an hour trip…once every weekend—it’s a weekend car—then, that’s not as bad on the oil,” the mechanic says. “But if you’re just doing a couple of miles a day on the oil, that’s pretty tough.”

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Viewers share their own oil change experiences

In the comments section, users shared their own thoughts on oil changes.

“I change my oil once every 2 years or 25k,” a user claimed.

“And they won’t tell you many newer cars can go up to 10k miles between changes,” added another.

“Hmm kinda agree. work from home… drive my gas saver when needed…put only 1k miles on my truck per year and replace the oil only once a year,” stated a third.

The Daily Dot reached out to Royalty Auto Service via its website contact form.

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