You Should Be Fighting For Each Other, Not Against Each Other

You Should Be Fighting For Each Other, Not Against Each Other

Your boyfriend should be your teammate. Your rock. Your support system. He should be the one person you can trust when your life turns upside down. He should be on your side. And you should be on his side.

You should be facing obstacles together. You should be working toward a better future together. You should be consulting each other and bouncing ideas off each other.

He should be someone you can always count on for support when you want to leap from your comfort zone and take a risk. You should not be afraid to mention an idea to him because you assume he will shut it down immediately. You should not settle into an average existence because you know he would be annoyed if you suggested moving across the country or quitting your job.

If you two are meant to spend forever together, then you should be fighting for each other, not against each other.

If you are always at odds, butting heads, arguing over the most mundane details of your life, then you are wasting your time. You should not remain in a relationship where you constantly have to defend yourself, where you have to argue your point, where you feel like you are on opposing teams.

You are supposed to be working toward your goals together — even if they are individual goals. If you want to reach a certain milestone in your career, he should be encouraging you when the little voice in the back of your head gets the best of you. If he wants to take on his own goals, you should be there to support him every step of the way.

Soulmates are teammates. Your boyfriend is meant to help you reach your fullest potential, not hold you in place without the opportunity for growth. He is meant to encourage your dreams, not squash them until you change your mind. He is meant to make your future brighter, not dimmer than planned.

You should be on the same page with your person. You should be fighting the same battles.

You are not supposed to be on opposite sides of a wrestling ring, ready to tear each other apart over the smallest inconvenience. You are supposed to be collaborating. You are supposed to be working together to build the best future possible, not only for your relationship as a whole, but for the two of you as individuals.

If he does not support your passions, if he convinces you to stop working toward your dreams, then you need to resume your search for your forever person. He is clearly not the one for you if he fights you on every decision you make, if he refuses to listen to your desires, if he convinces you to change your mind and your morals.

If you are fighting against each other, it might be time to hang up the towel. But if you are fighting alongside each other, then you have double the chances of succeeding. TC mark

Source : https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2018/11/you-should-be-fighting-for-each-other-not-against-each-other/

'Mrs. Doubtfire' Turns 25 — Take a Look Inside the Iconic San Francisco House

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It’s hard to believe it’s been 25 years since Mrs. Doubtfire taught us all about the great lengths a dad would go to be with his children, and I’m crying just thinking about the incredible Robin Williams (RIP) who brought the eponymous character to life.

After a messy divorce with his wife Miranda (Sally Field), Daniel Hillard (Williams) disguises himself as an older British nanny in order to convince his ex-wife to let him look after their kids. What follows is family-friendly, wholesome fun, with some heartfelt tears mixed in.

Growing up, I probably watched this movie over a hundred times, and it instilled a deep love for the city of San Francisco in me from a very early age. I can hardly think of a more iconic SF movie than Mrs. Doubtfire, which, fun fact, was shot entirely in the city.

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One thing I appreciate tremendously about this film after years of rewatching it is the way Mrs. Doubtfire warms the hearts of the children and mother, successfully making their broken house a home once again.

So, for the 25th anniversary of the film’s release, I wanted to take a look inside the iconic Pacific Heights home to relive some of the movie’s best moments, without spending any money on airfare.

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When Mrs. Euphegenia Doubtfire initially speaks to Miranda on the phone about interviewing as a nanny, she tells her ex-husband-in-disguise to show up at 2640 Steiner Street, right in the heart of the very fancy Pacific Heights, just steps away from the Embarcadero. 

As it turns out, this is an actual real-life address, which, since Robin Williams’ untimely death in 2014, has become a site for fans from all over the world to leave flowers and notes of remembrance.

From the looks of the real estate photos taken before the house sold for a pretty $4.15 million in 2016, the white door in the film was changed for a more classic wooden finish. The 3,300-square foot home boasts 4 bedrooms, an office, and 3.5 baths. 

Not too shabby for the Hillard family of four.

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With the exception of some key updates that bring the house from ’90s homey — which Miranda claims in the movie to have designed all by herself — to 21st century real estate chic, the formal living room doesn’t look too changed. 

Even with all the ruckus of a birthday party going on, it’s hard not to appreciate the window-lined turret, which according to the home’s listing, promises “glimpses of the San Francisco Bay.”

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In fact, the film kept most of the house’s classic details, like the gorgeous inlaid detail on the pristine hardwood floors. 

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The only big change I picked up on were the built-in bookshelves around the living room fireplace in the movie, which were gone by the time these real estate shots were taken.

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Even the iconic kitchen, where Mrs. Doubtfire catches on fire after trying her hand at preparing a home-cooked meal, has a similar layout to the ones that feature in the listing. Just look at those tiled countertops, they’ve become a rare sight in modern houses these days.

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And let’s not forget the highly memorable staircase, which the kids are always seemingly running up or down together. It figures prominently in the actual house, and the front door opens right to it, just like in the film.

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In fact, it makes me wonder whether the house’s windows used to have leaded glass like they do in the film, or whether that detail was thought up by the movie makers.

We don’t get to see too much of the Hillard’s upstairs in the movie, but there are a few choice scenes worth comparing to the real estate shots.

The first is a brief glimpse at the upstairs landing. Mrs. Doubtfire is leaving Lydia’s room to go to the bathroom in this still, and Chris is about to discover she’s actually a man.

The doors and layout check out pretty decently when compared to the listing’s photos. 

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The second scene actually directly precedes the one of the landing, when Mrs. Doubtfire is quizzing eldest daughter Lydia about her homework. We get to see Lydia’s lovely pink room, a gorgeous tween setup worthy of a mood board.

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According to the Steiner Street listing, Lydia’s is the front room, which features “built-in banquette storage in the turret with plantation shutters.” This detail might have come after the film was shot in the ’90s, or else the set designers chose to cover it up with the desk and bulky chairs we see here.

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In any event, the house is a gorgeous one, currently being enjoyed by an undisclosed buyer. For more images of the house, visit the luxury real estate site of Steven Gothelf. All of these pictures make me want a historical house, or at least they make me want to throw the movie on, to appreciate and commemorate 25 years of the unforgettable Mrs. Doubtfire.

Source : https://www.distractify.com/entertainment/2018/11/20/Z1TWW4p/mrs-doubtfire-house

See What the Cast of 'Twilight' Looks Like 10 Years After the Premiere

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It’s hard to believe it’s been ten years since the love story between Bella Swan and Edward Cullen premiered on the big screen. 

One decade later, Stephanie Meyer’s vampire franchise, Twilight, is still one of our favorites to watch, thanks to a cast that includes Kristen Stewart, Taylor Lautner, Anna Kendrick, Kellan Lutz, and of course, the one and only Robert Pattinson. Since 2008, the stars of the hit film have gone on to do big things in Hollywood, but they will always been Forks residents to us. 

“Every part that I’ve ever played has shaped me in such a significant way…I know from an outsider’s perspective you might have something to say about that like in general. But I kind of view it as every other thing that I’ve invested in and really loved. And I’m lucky to have had that experience,” Kristen said in 2017. “I got a lot from [Twilight] and it’s made me who I am.”

So, what are the Cullens and rest of the Twilight cast up to today? Keep scrolling for an update on your favorite character from the first film.

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Kristen Stewart (Bella Swan)

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Robert Pattinson (Edward Cullen)

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Jacob Black (Taylor Lautner)

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Peter Facinelli (Dr. Carlisle Cullen)

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Elizabeth Reaser (Esme Cullen)

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Ashley Greene (Alice Cullen)

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Kellan Lutz (Emmet Cullen)

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Nikki Reed (Rosalie)

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Jackson Rathbone (Jasper)

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Billy Burke (Charlie Swan)

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Cam Gigandet (James)

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Rachelle Lefevre (Victoria)

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Edi Gathegi (Laurent)

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Sarah Clarke (Renée)

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Anna Kendrick (Jessica)

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Justin Chon (Eric)

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Christian Serratos (Angela)

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Michael Welch (Mike Newton)

Source : https://www.distractify.com/entertainment/2018/11/20/1J2rnn/twilight-10-year-anniversary

4 Celebrities Who Got Accused of Bodyshaming with "Fitspo" Posts

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It’s not hard for me to feel physically inadequate. All I need to do is log into social media and scroll through countless fitness models and muscular dudes doing workouts that seem impossible as sweat glistens and rolls down their perfectly sculpted abs.

Usually it inspires me to work out and eat a bit healthier, which I have been doing, but no matter what, I always feel like there’s someone bigger, stronger, leaner, more vascular, and just all around sexier than I am. I mean, no matter how good I look or how hard I work, I’m never going to be Jason Momoa — it’s just not going to happen.

I don’t let it get me down that much, because that’s not something I can control so I just “gotta do me”, as the cool kids say. But for some, it’s not that simple, and they see the constant “fitspo” posts on the internet as a huge negative or an indirect form of bodyshaming.

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Which is what recently happened with Scooby Doo: Monsters Unleashed star Sarah Michelle Gellar after she posted a few modeling pictures as a personal reminder to not overeat this Thanksgiving.

Whenever it’s Turkey Day, engorging is way, way too easy. You’ve got a big, beautiful bird in front of you. Gravy. And the desserts, my God, the endless amounts of delicious fall-themed desserts like pumpkin, sweet potato, and apple pie, or my aunt’s Yum-Yum cake. I have been eating that for years and I still have no idea what’s in it, but I can guarantee that I’m stuffing away at least 1,000 calories of that alone this Thanksgiving.

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41-year-old Gellar’s post, with the caption “I’m just going to pin these up all over my house as a reminder not to overeat on Thursday #thanksgivingprep” seemed to anger folks, and they were quick to lambaste the actress in the comments section:

“Hey @sarahmgellar I freakin love you, but this messaging (esp for young vulnerable girls) is crap. What about someone who can do both? What about considering your messages through a body-shaming/adding to shitty culture filter before posting? Your body is gorgeous, but so are all bodies – chubby, fat, curves need lifting up, not more demonising,” one follower wrote.

Some argued that a day here and there of over-indulging isn’t going to destroy one’s waistline, but even if someone isn’t slim, that’s not necessarily a bad thing:

“One day of eating good food and enjoying tradition with your family and friends won’t change your body. And even if it did… is it bad to be anything but slim?”

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Others felt that the castigation of Sarah was unjustified, that her post was taken way out of proportion and she wasn’t bodyshaming others at all. Instead, she was just pep-talking herself into having a body that makes her happy.

“She doesn’t wanna eat to the point where she feel set, I can relate to that, who does? That’s not fun… Why do we have to shame her for wanting to keep the shape that she has? What’s our issue that we are on here telling her she’s a part of the problem….”

I love it. And I think sometimes we just need to stop jumping to conclusions and realize that all this was, is a joke and something for her. If you don’t like it, just keep scrolling. She didn’t do anything wrong here. Have a great holiday everyone! 

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The Veronika Decides to Die actress isn’t the only star who found themselves in a bodyshaming controversy. Actress Chloe Grace Moretz publicly apologized after press materials for her film, Red Shoes & The 7 Dwarfs appeared online.

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People weren’t too happy with the poster’s statement that because Snow White was no longer thin that she couldn’t be beautiful. Oh, and the fact that she is shorter and clearly upset that she’s no longer her tall, languid self.

Chloe publicly apologized on Twitter for the marketing materials, completely disavowing the direction the PR team took. She said no one consulted her or her team before they went public.

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Then there were celebrities who got caught straight-up bodyshaming people, like Riverdale actor Charles Melton who once tweeted, when he was much younger, that “Fat chicks need to understand that wearing yoga pants is a privilege, not a right.”

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He was pretty savage when it came to dissing “fat people” on his Twitter account, with more than a few tweets making mean-spirited jokes at their expense. He decided to combat the negative press and social media uproar when the tweets were unearthed by making his account private.

Instagram fitness models were also called out for bodyshaming with “fitspo” posts, like this mom who got under a lot of people’s skin with her post-pregnancy bounce-back pic, which asked, “What’s your excuse?”

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People didn’t take too kindly to the question that Maria Kang posed, and accused the mom and personal health guru of bodyshaming other moms who weren’t as trim and fit as her. It even sparked an online movement of moms who posted their own photos with their families saying that they didn’t need excuses for the ways their bodies looked.

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Do you think that people who are posting “fitspo” entries online are guilty of bodyshaming? Or do you think that celebrities and other notable figures online just welcome that kind of criticism from everyone online?

Source : https://www.distractify.com/entertainment/2018/11/20/2q5pPO/fitspo-posts-bodyshaming

10 Star Couples We Couldn’t Think Would Be Together, but It’s So Cool to See Them Happy

Love can’t be explained logically. It’s a feeling that doesn’t have any borders or stereotypes. Age, social status, different cultures — none of these can stop 2 people from wanting to be together.

Bright Side has chosen celebrity families that don’t care about social stereotypes or what other people say.

1. Vincent Cassel and Tina Kunakey

Vincent Cassel is still hated by many for breaking up with Monica Bellucci (they were considered to be the most attractive couple ever). Tina is often criticized for wanting to get attention by dating Cassel. Few people believe that they’re sincerely in love but they don’t seem to care. The 31-year age difference was not an obstacle on their road to marriage. Recently, they even said they were planning to have children.

2. Hafþór Björnsson and Kelsey Henson

The Game of Thrones star who played The Mountain wrote on his Instagram page, “It is with great pleasure that I now get to call Kelsey Morgan Henson my wife!”

Kelsey is hardly tall enough to reach her husband’s shoulder but they don’t care. The newlyweds met at a bar where Kelsey worked as a server and they’ve been together ever since.

3. Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan

Many people think that powerful men only choose beautiful models to be their wives. But one of the richest people in the world, Mark Zuckerberg, doesn’t care about stereotypes and ended up marrying his best friend.

The couple overcame many challenges together: Priscilla supported Mark when nobody believed in his idea, and Mark was always there for his wife when she had 3 miscarriages and couldn’t have a baby. But they managed to become happy parents.

4. Hugh Jackman and Deborra-lee Furness

Hugh Jackman is desired by millions of women but he chose only one. The actor is 13 years younger than his wife which is quite noticeable. Some tabloids say that Deborra-lee could be Hugh’s mother and often write that they’re going to get divorced. But despite all that, Hugh and Deborra-lee are still together and they look very happy.

5. Aaron Taylor-Johnson and Sam Taylor-Johnson

Sam is 50, and Aaron is 27. They have been happily married for 6 years and have 2 daughters. Young girls who are in love with Aaron can’t understand why he chose a woman who is almost 2 times older than he is. But they couple only shrugs their shoulders and say that they’re very happy together.

And recently the young and successful actor said he could easily leave his career and said that being a father is the biggest joy in his life. He even got a tattoo of his wife’s name near his heart.

6. Peter Dinklage and Erica Schmidt

Another Game of Thrones star Peter Dinklage has been happily married for over 12 years. The actor met Erica, a young theater director, back in 1995 and their close friendship turned into a relationship. Today, the couple has 2 children together.

7. Liv Tyler and Dave Gardner

The beautiful Live Tyler is taller than her husband but she doesn’t care: the actress wears high-heeled shoes and doesn’t try to look shorter. The couple has 2 children together and 2 more from other marriages. Recently, Jack Whitehall reported that Liv and Dave got married.

8. Sacha Baron Cohen and Isla Fisher

He is a showman who has shocked the public many times with his talents and she is a modest, tiny woman, actress, and writer. They used to live in different worlds but in order to be together, they decided to make changes.

Isla, for example, changed her religion and converted to Judaism. And Sacha shares Isla’s interest in charity and the couple has recently donated $1 million to Syria. But still, it’s hard to understand how Isla manages to tolerate and support the crazy things her husband does and how Sacha can be a normal family man and father of 3 children.

9. Jessica Alba and Cash Warren

The story of their love reminds us of a romantic Hollywood movie: a regular guy named Cash worked as a director’s assistant doing small errands like ordering pizzas and buying coffees to go. He didn’t ever dream of meeting his favorite actress and becoming her husband. They have been together for more than 10 years now and have 3 children.

10. Prince Henry and Meghan Markle

This is probably the most unlikely couple of all. A divorced 37-year-old American actress with Afghani roots from a regular family became part of the British Royal family! We thought such things were only possible in fairy tales, but we were wrong. The wedding of Prince Henry and Meghan Markle became the most discussed event of the year which made many people believe true love without borders and stereotypes actually existed.

Which of these couples surprised you the most? Tell us in the comment section below.

Source : https://brightside.me/wonder-people/10-star-couples-we-couldnt-think-would-be-together-but-its-so-cool-to-see-them-happy-648360/

Thanksgivings When You Were Still Alive

Thanksgivings When You Were Still Alive

When you were alive, we would gather in your house every Thanksgiving — but it felt like our house. Like it belonged to everyone. It was cramped, low on space, but we would take our plates to the couch or stand in front of the television while footballs were tossed on the fuzzy screen. We would balance our sodas on the floor, hoping not to kick them onto the rug while we teased each other in the way only family can tease.

When you were alive, you would spend ninety-nine percent of your time working your butt off in the kitchen, sweating from the heat rolling from the oven. You would make enough food to last three Thanksgivings, no matter how many people ended up showing. We barely had enough room on the table to fit the turkey, mashed potatoes, ham, lasagna, cookies, and pie. No one left without leftovers. You made sure everyone was taken care of for the following week. You would always take care of everyone.

When you were alive, and the food was safety on the table, you would emerge from the kitchen to exchange whatever disc we had popped into the stereo in place of Johnny Cash. You would dance around the room with lyrics spilling from your lips, not caring how you looked, and encourage the rest of us to join you. And we would. We created our own dance floor in the five feet between the table and the stereo. We didn’t need room. We only needed a song.

When you were alive, we never went to the fridge for a beer. We would escape outside, onto the porch, where the cans were waiting in their cardboard boxes, the weather keeping them cool. It didn’t matter if there was snow on the ground, because at any given time, half of us would be outside. Someone would be smoking. Two other someones would be huddled in a private conversation, meant to be kept between themselves. Then someone else would have the idea to play kickball on the front lawn and everyone would scatter to join, flooding outside with their dragon breath and fluffy coats.

When you left this Earth, I was worried our family would fall apart without you. And, for a while, it did. Some moved away. Some fought. Some cut contact. Gatherings grew smaller or were completely skipped over. Nothing was the same without you.

But this Thanksgiving, we are going to gather together again. We are not going to be in the same cramped house with sodas on the carpet. And we are not going to be storing the beer on the stoop or eating around a too-small television. But we will be comparing the meals to what you used to make. We will be saying remember that time when as an excuse to tell stories about you. We will tease and we will laugh and we will probably dance.

We will reform our family until it feels like nothing has changed, like you are still right here alongside us. TC mark

Source : https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2018/11/thanksgivings-when-you-were-still-alive/

The Most Disastrous Creations Made on ‘The Great British Baking Show’

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The Great British Bake Show (or The Great British Bake-Off if you’re in the U.K.) is one of the most undramatic reality competition shows on TV. Nowhere else can you see people have complete emotional breakdowns over cracked fondant tennis courts, fallen eclair towers, or melted chocolate mousse cakes. Honestly, it makes me feel a lot better about my own #cakefails. In the words of former host Sue Perkins, “It’s just a cake!” Below, a few creations that went horribly and hilariously bad.

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Ruby’s Slip N’ Slide Cake

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James’ Finale Floor Cake

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Toby’s Salt Cake

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Dorret’s Black Forest Gateau Nightmare

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Mat’s Cake from Hell

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Louise’s Gingerbread House

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Terry’s Eiffel Tower Cake

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Danny’s Cake Soup

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Ruby’s Wedding Cake

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James’ Haunted Barn

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Paul’s Cake Collapse

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Dan’s “Rude” Biscuit

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#BinGate

Source : https://www.distractify.com/entertainment/2018/11/20/2iSyfI/great-british-baking-show-disasters

50 Couples Recount The *Exact Moment* They Realized They Wanted To Marry Their Person 

These heartfelt stories from Ask Reddit will give you wedding fever.

1. When I realized we had fun without having to go anywhere or do anything. It just all came so naturally.

2. When I had my first panic attack in front of him and I thought, thats it, he’s seen my crazy and I’ve blown it. I ran to my car and cried. He came to my car, told me to move to the passenger seat, drove around until I was okay to be in public and took me out for lunch and to a bookstore. Reading calms me.

I never knew what true loving consideration was before then. That feeling of real, unpretentious and unwavering love was just so much for me in that moment.

3. Just the sheer effort. Dropping everything if I had any issue arise. Helping me without being asked when I lost my job. Always being there. Calling to check on my son, building a friendship with him and eventually claiming him as his own/treating him as such. Always responding to messages/phone calls even if all he could say was, “Busy. You ok though?” Reliability is lit, fam. It wasn’t honeymoon phase BS either, this started as friends before dating and has continued on throughout our relationship. It is a beautiful part of who he is as a person and damn it makes me feel so cared for and loved and important. I’m going to marry this guy so hard.

4. When we went to the supermarket to shop for groceries for the first time. It wasn’t anything big or exciting, but we still had the nicest time together. It was so easy to see magic even in the mundane, can’t help but want this for the rest of my life.

5. When he told me that he’d re-arranged plans we’d had with our friends to go out next weekend for a few weekends later instead.

Me, completely clueless, asked him why. His response was that he was fairly sure I’d be on my period then and although I’d not mentioned it he knew that I was really suffering with pain for the last few months.

He didn’t want me to have to try and put a brave face on if I was in pain or feel bad about cancelling on friends at the last moment. That he thought this much about how I’d feel and had been paying attention to the things I didn’t say confirmed it for me.

6. I’m not a talkative person… My wife is a talker. After about a year of dating she asked me a question and then changed her voice and answered her own question word for word with what I would have said. She then proceeded to have an entire conversation between herself and “me” saying exactly what I would have said had I been talking. I realized no one on earth would ever know me and accept me as completely as she did. We just celebrated three years of marriage recently.

7. The first time I had dinner with his family, we had just gotten done with a hike and his dad texted him to invite him and told him he was welcome to bring me. I was hot, sweaty from the hike, dressed like a hooch in a muscle tank and cut off shorts, and was like do I have time to shower or change? And he said no, but if I was uncomfortable at all I should just kick him under the table and we could leave. It was so simple, but I’d never felt so thoroughly supported or accepted and I just knew he was my person. Five years later we’re two months happily married.

8. I already had a feeling, but when my bf met my mom for the first time. She and I are really close. When we got to her apartment and had some wine she started getting really chatty as she is wont to do. She started telling my boyfriend all about her dating problems and failed relationships. He was so patient and really listened to her, asking questions offering input every now and then.

It was slightly embarrassing because she was clearly tipsy, but I loved how natural it felt to be sitting there with my two favorite people in the world just chatting about life. I just remember getting up to go to the bathroom so I could have a small cry in private because I knew he was the one.

We are getting married next fall .

9. She stuck with me through cancer. I knew after the first month of treatment I would marry her.

10. When he told me I was important. Not just to him, but in general. No one else has ever said that to me, or made me feel that way. Showed me that he cared about me as a person, and not just who I was to him.

So, yeah, I’m going to marry that fucker one day.

11.When he dropped everything to get me to my grandmother’s when I was told that she might not live much longer. He refused to let me be alone that night and had me sleep at his place. The next morning he calls out of work, packs a bag, swings by my place to help me get my stuff, and then drives me 450 miles over a mountain in the middle of winter to let me see my grandma one more time. To see the amount of support he gave me told me that I had found the person who would always have my back.

12. When he was reading to his son (my stepson). I was in the lounge so could hear him, and he put did all these zany and goofy voices for all the different characters. Totally unabashed and just wanting to do a good job for his son.

13. When I realized that my time felt more valuable when I was with her.

We often would have multiple conversations where we checked the time and it was 3 or 4 am and it felt like we just started talking. I recognized that the person who I lost track of time talking to, was the one I felt most comfortable around. Security is a huge thing that people talk about, but this overwhelming sense of peace was something I never felt with anyone else before… except her.

14. When I realized her answer didn’t matter.

We would be together for the rest of our lives whether we were married or not. At that point it was an easy and logical question to ask.

15. He bought me a Harry Potter LEGO set I’ve wanted since I was a kid. I talked about it a lot (I missed out on playing w legos as a child) and he just…listens to me. From that moment on I knew he is the one!

16. When I emotionally unleashed years of pent up baggage and expectation that I’ve never ever talked about and he was there waiting with open arms to receive it and try to understand and help me get through it.

17. Watching him get super excited when he was trying to teach me how to play fifa. I have no idea what he was saying, I was watching his face light up.

18. My first date with my husband. He wasn’t into fine dining and fancy cars. He drove a orange Ford Ranger and we went and got a pizza and then went to Walmart. He wasn’t like other guys he actually cared and we were so much alike in our personalities and likes I knew I was going to marry him.

19. She has a smile unlike any other. The first time I told her I loved her in a quiet Starbucks, her eyes turned into crescent moons and I was enchanted.

I knew then that I could spend the rest of my life seeing her smile and still be as enchanted as that evening in Starbucks. Her smile tells me that everything will be okay.

20. I have terrible anxiety where sometimes I’m just unable to do simple tasks, I take medication for it but sometimes it’s not enough, but no matter how anxious I am, one strong hug from him always calms me down to normal, it’s a miracle, 3+ years together and it’s never failed, I’ll never let go of that!

21. He had me move in with him and quit working so I could focus on school. And when I told him that if I wasn’t working full time and JUST in school it meant I totally had time to raise a puppy that I had wanted for years but hadn’t got because of the whole working and school thing.

And that’s how I ended up with a puppy. Who’s now a dog. And i graduate in December and have an awesome job.

And we dropped off the heirloom stones to go into the custom ring he picked last week.

22. He made me laugh so hard that I actually peed myself. And then he wasn’t weird about the fact that I peed myself (which was super gross and embarrassing, he should have made a big deal about that).

23. When we were getting to really know each other when we first started dating. I had some really manipulative exes that destroyed my self esteem and worth and had been ghosted so many times, regardless if it was a 2 month relationship or 2 year relationship.

We had been talking about trust as I was so worried he was gonna get annoyed of me and just ghost me like everyone else- was just having an emotional moment. He told me that he knows I’ve been through some really hard stuff, but that he will wait for as long as it takes for me to learn to trust him, and that he will do whatever it takes to show me that I can trust him and that he’s not running away.

24. We had just started dating near Christmas. I went to her place Christmas morning where we exchanged gifts. She made me a matching pillow and blanket and the effort she put into them so soon in a relationship just blew me away.

She knew I was going to my parents’ house afterwards to spend Christmas with them, and baked me a huge tray of treats to bring over and share with my family. When I eventually left my place and went to see my parents, I gave them the treats, and told them how I had met someone, and that these were from her. They were incredibly touched, and excited, and insisted I invite her to come over.

The way that day felt, from the love found in her handmade gifts in the morning, to the excitement of my parents hearing about her, to how wonderful it felt having everyone together and interacting for the first time on Christmas, made me confident that she was someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

25. After dating for a whole six months, we were forced to spend a week apart (on our way to pretty much live together half a continent away from our families) and decided we couldn’t live without each other. We’ve now been together 12 years and married for 8. It’s all about finding compatible kinds of stupid.

26. When my dad suddenly collapsed. He had been getting updates from my roommate about dad’s condition and when he learned that he died he changed his work schedule, boarded his dog, booked a flight and was at my doorstep within 8 hours. We were living a few states away from each other at the time. Not having to ask him to be by my side was huge.

27. The day my husband (then bf) and I brought home our first dog (we now have three) it was like click and we were a family. He proposed to me a year later (we custom designed the ring together so I kinda knew it was coming) and got married 2 years after that,

28. The first instant I laid eyes on her. Literally my first conscious thought was, “I’m going to marry her.” I told her about that a year later when we were engaged and she said she felt the exact same thing.

29. At the time, we had this small 1bed/1bath apartment that was lakeside in the complex we lived. We always loved when the ducks came around because they chose our lake to have and raise ducklings before leaving for the cold weather.

One morning, I woke up and came out to the living room to see her sitting outside on the back patio, in her pj’s, facing the lake, feeding the ducks, and humming to herself.

Maybe it was the way the sunrise hit her and the water, maybe it was her messy but still adorable bed head, but she looked like the most gorgeous thing I’d ever seen. Just the whole picture…I knew right then I wanted to marry this woman.

30. I came home from work and my dog and my roommates dog had gotten into a nasty fight. My dog (smaller) got the worst of it and needed immediate attention.

I called him and could barely get any words out between sobs. He drove over, picked us up and took us to the emergency vet. He sat in the vets office with me and held me when the vet said they needed to keep my girl overnight for observation. He also paid half the bill – which was pretty hefty.

My dog is fine, she’s now “our” dog and we call her our “dogter.”

31. Fuck man, so many things:

-The way her face lights up when she sees me for the first time in a while – She studies abroad, so we only see each other once a month or so, but the way she looks at me is indescribable.

-The way she looks at dogs or babies, I can tell she’ll be an amazing mother to my children some day.

-The fact that we can spend countless hours together doing absolutely nothing and still enjoy every second of it.

-That her family welcomed me with open arms straight away, without any hesitation.

-That she’ll surprise me with my favorite drink, or a tray of brownies, or a letter or something out of the blue, she’s so thoughtful.

But probably the actual moment where I realized I would marry her is when we swapped birthday gifts, and we had both gotten each other the same gift, Eat What you Watch, we watch his episodes together and are both huge foodies, and when we realized what had happened we laughed so hard and for so long that my neighbors actually texted me and told me to keep it down (I lived in a house at the time so there wasn’t even a shared wall).

Cannot wait to marry that amazing woman!

32. Boyfriend took me to do donuts in a parking lot. The entire time he has his arm pushed against my chest to make sure my body didn’t fly all over the car. Best night of my life.

33. When he was willing to move all my things to two different houses in two weeks while I was stressing out. He does so much that has made me decide that I’m going to marry him but that was a big one.

34. I am pretty particular about details and when we washed and dried our bedsheets they got those little lint thready balls all over. We tried to pull off the bigger ones but I knew if I slept on those sheets I’d sit there thinking about every little grain I could feel. I didn’t complain or say anything but he knew what would happen. He went and got a razor and “shaved” our sheets. He worries about my comfort no matter how stupid or crazy it seems. No matter how big or small, he looks out for me. I knew how much he loved me because he was willing to shave bedsheets for me. Note: we went and got new sheets later but he wanted me to feel comfortable that night.

35. When I realized I had never met another human being who had understood me or cared for me as much as she does, and the fact I could be with her 24/7 and it still not feel like I have spent enough time with her.

36. Started dating my S/O in college, through a series of uninteresting events, I ended up sleeping on air mattress for a little bit. Anyways, we were getting into some “business” and I hear a slight hissing sound. We both realized it and stopped for a second to confirm that there was in fact a hole in it. After a moment of silence, she says, “So are we just gonna ride it down?”

37. When we were living an hour apart, both had food poisoning but he drove the hour to take care of me (I’m a baby when it comes to being sick).

38. I was living with him for a few days in the very early part of us officially being in a relationship (weird time in between apartments). We were sleeping in a twin bed and I had to work earlier than he did. I woke up in a puddle of my own blood. I panicked, showered, and just quickly left. When I got back to his place I was still super embarrassed and ready to super apologize instead I walked into fresh sheets and zero conversation about it until years later. When you’re 20 and a dude doesn’t freak out about period blood ~ that’s true love. 5 years later and 2 years of marriage and things are still pretty chill.

39. There is no specific moment. Just a lot of little moments.

We have so much in common. We could be doing nothing, yet as long as we are together we are having a good time. He has never judged me for my past. He doesn’t want to hurt me or control me.

Every moment I have to spend without him makes me sad.

40. My husband decided to marry me when I drove a motorcycle up a mountain pass in Colorado.

Context: he’s had bikes since he was 16, and I had always been a passenger. I decided to get my license, and 2 months later we drove across the US for 9 weeks. We drive dual sports, and he wanted to do some trails on the trip. We went up a mountain pass (Engineer Pass near Ouray) which was too difficult for me, to the point where he told me that we were going to turn back. I told him I would make it up that effing mountain if it was the last thing I did, and he realized in that moment I wasn’t doing it for him, rather I’m a badass out there for me. He proposed at the top of the mountain with a ring he fashioned out of wire since he decided half way up that this was it. It was perfect.

41. He was in my kitchen in his underwear, looking through my cabinets. He pulled out a little plastic container of sunflower seeds and shook it like a maraca. I realized just how much and how often he made me laugh.

42. My Grandmother was in the final moments of life from pretty severe lung cancer. Bed ridden, home health care, body getting pretty stiff already. That man changed her diapers. Cleaned her, cared for her. I’ve never seen any one just do the right thing without being asked, without questioning it, without hesitation. Any second thoughts I had about him vanished. Someone so inherently good from the core is so rare.

43. She would massage my arms and hands after a long day’s work, and she made sure I never felt guilty that I fell asleep while she was doing it. She wholly and unconditionally cared for my well-being.

RIP…

44. I took him to meet my parents, and he met my childhood kitty, who was very old by then (19 or 20) and had always been kind of aloof and independent, not a lap cat at all. He sat on the couch and patted it for her to jump up. “She doesn’t do that,” I told him, “and anyway she’s too old to do it now.” She jumped up onto his lap and settled down for him to pet her, purring loudly.

We’ve been married for decades.

45. Hard choice between when he immediately wanted to teach me how to play all his video games or 5 years later when I finally fully realized he really does despise cheating as much as I do.

46. After I graduated college I decided to move to another state to pursue my ridiculous dream of becoming a zookeeper. We were high school sweethearts, but in my family everyone is divorced. Even eight years of steady love from him hadn’t convinced me that he wouldn’t just decide to leave me one day. My own family leaves me. I’m not interesting or special.

He told me not to worry. As soon as he was done with school he’d move to be with me. We’d see each other as much as possible until then. Two years later he graduated, and showed up on my door step. I never believed until that moment, ten years into our relationship, that this could end happily.

He’s such a steady rock, even my skittish heart had to admit this was forever. He has always been so wonderful and loving. He’s funny, playful, sexy, nerdy, and can’t keep anything clean to save his life. Fourteen years together, almost three married… and I’m no longer waiting with baited breath for the other shoe to drop. Being married to him is the easiest and most fun thing I’ve ever done.

47. We were doing long distance and chatting on Skype and watching TV together. An add came on the TV with a bridezilla bitching about a super expensive wedding dress not being good enough. I wrinkled my nose in disgust and said ‘when I get married it’ll be in jeans and a white T-shirt’. He said ‘sweet, I’ll find a tuxedo shirt to match.’

After my heart started beating again I put him on hold and yelled at my roommate that I was gonna marry this guy.

Six months later I did. We’re getting close to our 8th anniversary.

48. About 6 months in,I was dealing with some emotional and mental baggage and was crying into her shirt. It wasn’t the first time but every time it happened she comforted me and swore up and down that shed be there for me. Something clicked and I realized that if I couldn’t at least make her smile every day I’d never be able to repay her for her kindness.

Also, she figured out how to mix spinach into my food and make it taste good. I hate spinach. She wins.

49. He was willing to do whatever whenever. He just wanted to hang out with me. We never got bored just hanging out.

50. The moment my dog I had throughout my abusive relationship (ex), who was also abused and had issues with males, jumped onto his lap and gave him kisses without hesitation. It’s like he was giving me the seal of approval. Been 4 years happily married. TC mark

Source : https://thoughtcatalog.com/january-nelson/2018/11/50-couples-recount-the-exact-moment-they-realized-they-wanted-to-marry-their-person/

11 Holiday Incidents That Went Down in Family Infamy

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If you’re dreading the holidays this year, it might make you feel better to read about people who’ve definitely, 100%, without a shadow of a doubt, had it worse than you during their big family meals. 

From trying edibles for the first time to literally dying at the dinner table, 11 people shared truly unforgettable incidents that made their holidays traumatic, to say the least.

The next month is going to be stressful, but these stories will make you thankful that no matter how dysfunctional your family appears, at least you’re not these people.

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We Might Need to Stop Asking the Table What They’re Grateful For

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Gives the Solemn Prayer Ritual a New Meaning

3

Grandma Got Run Over by a Martini

4

RIP Oven

5

Legendary Floor Bird

6

Thanksgiving Prayer

7

Don’t Interrupt the Adults

8

The “Fun” Uncle

9

IRL Microwave #TurkeyChallenge

10

Just a Casual Game of Dress-Up

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The Holidays Aren’t a Great Time to Test Out Your First Batch of Edibles

Source : https://www.distractify.com/trending/2018/11/20/gi9Ul/holiday-nightmare-moments

Every Couple That Stays In Love Has This One Thing In Common

Falling in love is easy.

It’s staying in love that people have a hard time with.

Falling in love is easy because what most people think is “love” is a subconscious, neurological, chemical reaction to another person.

Attraction is based on differing DNA, and we pick up on attraction through visual cues and scents, all of which signal to us that someone has chromosomes enough unlike ours to be a suitable candidate for reproduction.

(This is also why incest seems so disgusting — we do not want to reproduce with someone who has similar DNA to us.)

But what people do is that they write a deep, mystical narrative around this experience.

They find someone with whom they swear they have an other-worldly attraction. They can list the ways in which the stars have aligned and the boxes have been checked and it seems, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that all the “coincidences” surrounding their relationship are a sign from a divine force beyond them that they are meant to be together.

This is the way the brain makes sense of the intense physical experience that it’s having.

But what the brain doesn’t know to consider is this: if I had to take sex out of this relationship entirely, would this person still be someone I’d want to hang out with?

And therein lies the (not-so-secret) secret to why some couples stay in love, and other couples can’t make it last: best friendship.

The reality is that the best, happiest, most stable and long-lasting couples are as much best friends as they are lovers.

This is important because the sexual aspect of your relationship takes up a very tiny percentage of your overall time together.

Your life partner is the person with whom you will share at least one meal with every night for the rest of your life. They are the person with whom you will take every vacation, spend every weekend, and see every morning.

They will be the person you talk to the most, the person you go shopping with and for, the person who is there to comfort you in times of need and encourage you in times of doubt.

This person needs to be your best friend. 

The person you want to call before you’d call anyone else.

The person whose opinion you trust the most.

The person who you want to be around as much as you can.

Because once all of the glossy-eyed awe of the honeymoon period wanes, what you will be left with is the reality of your relationship, and this is the point at which most couples break.

The true test of the strength of a relationship is what happens to it when sex is no longer a part of it. Because in life, there will come days, weeks, or months when sex is out of the question. Maybe you’re traveling, maybe you had a baby, maybe you’re just so busy that neither of you really want to do the whole candlelit dinner, romance thing.

And that’s ok. That’s life.

But if you want to be with someone you know you can count on even when you’re going through those dry patches, if you want to be in a relationship that you are confident will last through the years of challenges, you need to make sure that person is your best friend.

You need to make sure that you are not committing your life to someone who you can only tolerate for a few hours on a Saturday night when you get dressed and go out and have fun.

Because if your relationship isn’t stable when its in that phase, you’re in trouble when reality sets in months or years later, and it’s just you — your whole selves, your honest selves — on the couch in your sweatpants talking about money and work and whether or not you want to go to your friend’s party next weekend.

When your partner is your best friend, all of that is fun. The relationship feels more effortless than it doesn’t. You’re still happy even when you aren’t being romanced. You’re not being thrown around by your emotions, by doubts, by “timing” or whatever other excuse one of you comes up with.

The right relationship is the person who can be your best friend as much as they are your lover.

That is the love that lasts. TC mark

Source : https://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2018/11/every-couple-that-stays-in-love-has-this-one-thing-in-common/