This TikTok User Only Wants Female Instacart Shoppers

“I think women are used to having to do more, especially when it comes to domestic duties.”

While apps like Instacart are designed to make our lives easier, it’s not uncommon to hear horror stories from some users. Recently, TikTok user Jamila Bell (@_iamjamila) made a video about her own Instacart experiences, as well as a trend she’s noticed.

Jamila begins the video by saying that from now on if she places an Instacart order and sees that the shopper is a boy, she will immediately cancel the order. She then elaborates by comparing female shoppers to male shoppers and says that a female shopper will message you about an out-of-stock item and potential substitution. She also adds that female shoppers will actually try.


By comparison, Jamila says that a male shopper won’t bring your full order, or even reach out to you for potential substitutions. She also adds other examples of male shoppers’ behaviors, including only bringing bruised and unusable fruits and vegetables and taking forever to complete your order. Jamila finishes by saying that it’s like her little brother is shopping, and elaborates, “Didn’t even think.”


Jamila’s video currently has 905.6K views, 239K likes, and a comment section full of opinions.

I spoke to Jamila, who works as a content creator, writer, and producer based in Atlanta, Georgia. Jamila has been an Instacart customer for about two years, and said that as an avid homebody and mother of a toddler, the service is incredibly useful, though she added, “When you get the right shoppers.” Jamila said, “Almost every time I had a (perceived) male shopper, I experienced the same thing. It just felt like they wouldn’t even try to get the specific products I requested. As I stated in my video, they would not give me the same superior services as the women shoppers I encountered.”

When asked why she believes that this difference between male and female Instacart shoppers exists, Jamila said, “Of course, this is my experience. But if you want to know my suspicion, I think women are used to having to do more, especially when it comes to domestic duties.” Jamila’s video has actually prompted a conversation about gender roles, as some commenters argued that the difference in the quality of male versus female shoppers is actually a symptom of something much deeper. Jamila said, “Women are expected to be homemakers. If I’m being honest, in my experience, men like to put on this weaponized incompetence when it comes to certain tasks.”


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She continued, “Grocery shopping is a prime example. Men will be sent to the store with a clear and concise list of very basic items and will come back with wrong items, or better yet, none at all. This is in hopes of not being asked to do this task anymore. And because this is a very common practice with men, it carries into their service, specifically with Instacart shopping.”

While Jamila has been creating content for about 10 years now, she said that she enjoyed the response that her video has received, and added, “It’s all in fun and even the ‘negative’ comments make me laugh. I don’t take too many things personally.”

Have you had a bad Instacart experience? Let me know in the comments!

Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/mayaogolini/this-woman-only-wants-female-instacart-shoppers