Reddit Husband Shames Wife For Being Stay At Home Mom

Naturally, people had lots to say about OP’s behavior. And the consensus was overwhelmingly that OP’s the one in the wrong, and should very much feel like an A-hole for diminishing his wife’s contributions.

“Your wife is a very smart woman who probably prepared her whole life for a challenging technical career. And now, for better or worse, she is a SAHM with no degree or paying job.

It’s clear that you are proud of your intellectual capabilities and the complex tasks you tackle at work. It is part of your identity and your ego. Your wife has none of that, even though that’s what she wanted. What little source of pride she has (her household tasks), her own spouse diminishes and minimizes. How would that make you feel if you were in her shoes?”

—u/Flownique

“Here is this brilliant woman, Stanford, assuming, double major, physics/cse trying to find some satisfaction in her life as it applies to her skills and abilities (I am sure she is happy and fulfilled as a mother, but she has other qualities and needs, too), and her husband can’t even give her that…for the grocery shopping.”

—u/Cypher1388