Is She Wrong for Not Wanting to Plan Her Friend’s Birthday Party? Here’s What People Said.

You know what I’d say to this if I was the woman who wrote this story?

Oh, hell no!

Because she got dissed by her friend for her wedding and now that same friend wants her to plan her birthday party!

But let’s get all the details before we make a judgment call, okay?

Get started now!

“Okay so I first met my friend *Jane (F29) studying abroad. We were really good friends during our travels and after college we actively stayed in touch visiting each other in our respective different cities.

I met her bf *Bob (now husband) when they first started dating and have met her college friends and parents.

Bob and Jane decided to move to my city right before Covid so during lockdown we were in each others bubbles – we’ve celebrated each others birthdays, we’ve had Friendsgiving, Christmas parties together etc.

2021 Bob and Jane got engaged in August and when they came back I threw them a engagement party. I bought her this wine glass that said “wedding planning wine glass” and every time she used it she would text me a photo of her with it.

In 2022 I threw Bob a 30th birthday party – but then this was also the first year I wasn’t invited to her birthday.

I had texted Bob asking what the plan was and he told me they were going out of the state for her birthday – however on instagram I seen them posting pictures of them renting a cabin with some friends…so I felt awkward.

Then I wasn’t invited to the Bachelorette party – I didn’t find this too big of a deal because Jane has some really close childhood friends and sorority friends but then nothing about the wedding.

The wedding happened this May and it was a big wedding – like 200 people probably and I wasn’t invited. I was really hurt to say the least but I didn’t say anything. I just tried to move on – I haven’t talked to them really since before the wedding – they didn’t wish me a happy birthday and they couldn’t attend my birthday shindig cause they were out of town.

I’m noticing that if I don’t reach out to either of them, they don’t reach out to me at all.

Now Bob has reached out and asked me to plan Jane’s birthday party cause he says “I’m the best at planning these things” and I told him I was hurt about not being invited and he said “well we had limit space don’t make it a big deal we want you to be at her birthday”

I really don’t want to do it and I don’t really feel any desire to be friends with them – am I being a petty a**hole?”

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.

This person said she’s NTA and discussed what was really going on here.

Another Reddit user also said she’s NTA and offered up a petty response.

And one individual said that these people obviously don’t consider her a friend.

Why would they want her to plan this if they don’t want to invite her to anything? So weird.