‘His mother insists it’s not appropriate.’ She Asked To Help Her Partner’s Child With Her Hair, But She’s Not Familiar With African Style Or Care. Was She Wrong?

Before we start, I just want to say that the question asked in this story seems completely reasonable.

But what do I know?

You’ve gotta make up your own mind on these things, otherwise what fun with Reddit’s Am I The A**hole section be?

Read on to see what you’d think!

“I’m a 28 year old woman of Japanese descent and am preparing to move in with my boyfriend of three years who is a 34 year old man of African descent. He is a widower and has a 7 year old daughter, she is a sweet girl and I am very fond of her.

Since I will be living with them I thought it was a good idea to reach out to his mother to ask if she’d help me learn how to take care of/style his daughters hair as there may be some days she wants or needs help and i’ve never dealt with hair that has her texture, I wouldn’t want to know nothing.

Perhaps I could have asked my boyfriend but lets be honest, a woman with that hair texture is more likely to know better styles/tricks and all over “Prettier” looks I even suggested to her that I could buy a mannequin head with a similar hair texture to his daughters to practice on.

His mother got upset with me and told me that it’s not my place to want to learn to style her grandchild’s hair and that it’s a bonding experience for them whenever she does her hair and I shouldn’t try and step on that. I apologised immediately but explained I wasn’t trying to take that away from her I just thought it was a good thing to know in case it ever comes up or she asks for help.

His mother insists it’s not appropriate for me to want to take care of her hair and has even told my boyfriend what I asked and while he doesn’t think what i’ve done is “Bad” he has said I should probably just leave this for his mother. I’m a little upset by this, I was just trying to have my bases covered and be able to help if she ever needs it.

Was it maybe insensitive of me to ask to learn?”

Now let’s see what folks on Reddit had to say about this…

One reader thinks this woman is being reasonable. She’s just trying to connect with the kid.

Another person said that she shouldn’t stop asking for help just because grandman won’t help.

And last, this person agreed that the the dad should be involved.

Yeah, this grandma needs to check herself.

If somebody wants to help out, let her help! Spread the knowledge!