He Uninvited His Entire Family From His Wedding When His Cousin Made A Truly Tasteless Joke. Did He Go Too Far?

Well, this is gonna result in a really awkward holiday season.

The following story is about a guy who got so angry about a joke that he literally uninvited his entire family from his wedding.

Did he do the right thing or is he acting like a jerk?

Story time!

“Joke is in quotes because I don’t know what to call it. Something my cousin said is dividing my family.

My partner (22f) and I (24m) are getting married in 6 weeks. She is eastern European and I’m from Spain (where we live). We’re having a small wedding with less than 15 people invited. Just our families and 1 close friend. This is partially because of covid but mostly because we prefer it that way.

Last week I was spending time with my family, and my cousin (25m) starts to talk to me about the wedding. He says congratulations, but he says it with a smile on his face and it sounds like he’s ‘taking the p**s’. I tell him thank you but ask what is so funny. He says to me literally “How much did she cost?”

Well my jaw basically hit the floor, I asked him what is he talking about, and he makes it even worse, he says “I’m thinking of getting a Slavic girl myself.” I was so shocked I couldn’t find any words. I just started muttering “I’m leaving” over and over again as I put on my shoes to leave. I don’t remember any of the words he said to me after that.

My family has made some distasteful jokes about my interethnic relationship before, but never jokes about s** trafficking before. When he said that it made me furious. It didn’t sound like he was joking.

Even if he was, I feel that it crossed a line. I didn’t know how I was going to tell my partner but I knew that I wasn’t going to allow my cousin in the same room as her anymore.

After driving for 90 minutes to get home, I had enough time to think about it. I called my cousin and told him he is no longer invited to the wedding. The next day I got spammed with calls, texts, and voice messages from my parents, uncle, and sister, telling me that I’m overreacting over a joke and causing divide in the family. So I told them all that they’re also uninvited.

My parents are not contributing to the cost of the wedding. They gave us €1,000 for an engagement gift, but after being uninvited they demanded it back. Even though I feel that you shouldn’t be allowed to take back a gift, I gave it back to avoid drama and to tell them that we don’t need their money.

I don’t think I’m overreacting because it’s not fair to my partner to have people there on her big day who think that way about her. Even though my family make up half of our total guests, I don’t want anybody there who feels that way. I’m okay with having none of them there.

Am I overreacting/ am I the a**hole?”

Yikes. That was a really tasteless joke. Especially in today’s climate.

Let’s see what commenters said…

This person said that this was disrespectful all around.

And this person said there’s nothing funny about trafficking.

And probably my favorite comment was somebody giving props to OP for standing up for his soon to be spouse.

And one person is legit shocked.

Yeah, screw the cousin. And if the family can’t see a joke like this as pretty horrific, screw them too.

No mercy!