AITA Man Won’t Ask Girlfriend’s Dad Permission To Marry Her

One person with the username u/darbystein suggested a script that would appease the father without compromising OP’s morals.

“I completely understand your side, and logically, it doesn’t make sense to ask for permission. However, not everything about relationships is logical — especially with religious/conservative parents. Her request may be a way for her to feel like you are being fully welcomed into the family. It’s a verbal approval from her father that he is okay with you marrying her, and parental approval is always craved (especially in households where it isn’t always given).

When my aunt got married, her husband just had a simple conversation with my grandfather — more of like an ‘I am planning on asking your daughter to marry me, and I wanted to let you know, man to man’ kind of thing. Maybe this would be more of a middle ground for you.”