37 Dating Dealbreakers

1.

“They don’t initiate ANYTHING, such as dates or intimacy.”

—u/Blackcore8

“I’m married now, but my rule is if they are interested, you should know it. This means they also initiate contact, they express enthusiasm to get together (can be shown by their energy/vibe, by their efforts to make things work, etc.). Someone interested will find time or communicate clearly why they can’t and find time as soon as that circumstance has passed. This does not mean someone shy won’t be shy and maybe stay a bit aloof. But once you’ve broken the initial dating barrier, you should see the interest. Teenage and 20s me would have benefited a lot from following this.

“If interest isn’t clear, they aren’t interested. They may be flattered, or bored, or want to like you (but don’t), but bottom line, it’s unlikely to work out well for you, and you deserve better. This also generally applies to friendships.”

—u/unicorn8dragon