28 Toxic Lessons From Parents That Kids Had To Unlearn

“I got the opposite, sort of, from my mom. She was a strong believer that people did jobs poorly to get out of doing them again in the future. So, all I ever heard was: ‘You’re just doing it like this because you don’t want to do it! Because you want me to do it! I have to do everything around here!’ Except, I actually was trying my best. And a lot of times, I did it right, too! Didn’t matter. My mom found a way to weaponize the concept of ‘weaponized incompetence.’ One time, she asked me to vacuum, and I did. And it was perfect! Spotless! But, she didn’t like that, so she tore the entire room apart until she found some dust. She had to pull out a 200-pound dresser to do it, but that wasn’t going to stop her.”

—u/jooes