23 People Share Tips For A Successful Marriage

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“Marriage is a partnership, not a codependency-ship. You each need to have some independence, your own personality, interests, etc., and your relationship. Neither party should lose themselves in the other’s problems. Try before you buy: Live together, travel together, and get physically and emotionally intimate. Make difficult decisions and see how they act when they don’t get their way. Make sure your partner’s good intent is matched by their actions, and make sure you follow through as well. Have and expect integrity. At no time should you feel like your partner is an antagonist. They are your collaborator and equal.”

—u/cliopedant

“The only thing I would add is: ‘You should never feel like an empty bucket, just as your partner shouldn’t. You should both contribute to doing things for each other.’”

—u/jocietimes