4.
“That it’s normal to have something negative to say about everyone you know as soon as you leave any sort of gathering.”
—u/Prudent_Tourist8161
“I always thought it was totally normal. When I got a partner and went somewhere with their family for the first time, I was actually amazed they only had positive things to say when leaving. My first thought was, ‘When are you guys going to start shitcanning people?’ (Thankfully didn’t say it out loud.) Occasionally, they might have a little gossip or vent, but usually, it was always for a decent reason, not ‘just because it’s what people do,’ which was my family’s justification for doing it.”
—u/Prudent_Tourist8161
Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/angelicaamartinez/parent-lessons-toxic-as-adults