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“The importance of keeping someone’s confidences and secrets! My best friend and roommate was engaged to her off-and-on again, longtime boyfriend who was also my friend. I was home alone one day and a woman knocked on our door with a paternity test for my roommate’s fiancé claiming he had fathered a child with another woman. My roommate begged me not to tell anyone because she still wanted to marry her fiancé that summer. This was probably the fourth time she had concrete evidence that he had cheated. I asked her to tell her family and other friends. One night, though, I was so fed up that I confided in one of our mutual friends that my roommate was making a huge mistake.”
“That friend ended up telling other people—and the secret was out. My roommate never forgave me. She completely cut me out of her life. She eventually broke up with her fiancé, but she stayed in a relationship with him for another year. She also stayed friends with our mutual friend. While I thought that wasn’t fair, I understood that I had broken her trust and betrayed her confidence. That was 10 years ago and over the last 10 years, I’ve reached out a few times to try to mend fences. She has politely responded once or twice but still has me blocked on social media. Losing her was the most heartbreaking relationship loss I ever experienced. It was a very painful lesson on keeping secrets and how involved to get in friends’ relationships.”
—Anonymous
Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ravenishak/friendship-lessons
