Is He Wrong for Calling His Wife a Bully? Here’s What People Said.

Hey, sometimes people need to be called out, you know what I’m saying?

Even if it happens to be your own wife…

And that has put this guy in quite a pickle…

But did he act like an a**hole?

Read his story below and see if you think he was out of line.

“I (M36) work as a bus driver.

I’ve been doing the same route for about five years and I’ve gotten to know my regulars pretty well to the point where I’d consider most of us friends. I enjoy my job and conversation and socializing comes easily to me. My wife (F36) works in an office and drives so she’s never really met any of my regular passengers.

So I’ve been married for about five years now and we’ve got two little kids (M4 and F1) and every few weeks we do The Big Shop where we go to the big Asda (Walmart for you Americans!)

Everything was fine and we were getting through the list with the kids sat in the trolley when I hear my wife make a noise of disgust and I look up to follow her gaze and see one of my regulars, getting her own shopping done, let’s call her L (F27).

L is a goth. Very monochrome color scheme, always in black velvet and lace, black lipstick, powdered white face, some visible tats, the works. But she’s a lovely girl, very sweet, works as a sign-language interpreter at a local secondary school, involved with Age Concern in her spare time and working towards a PHD.

All-around nice young lady. My wife launches into a snarky tirade about her appearance (“Look at that, why would you choose to look like that? Just asking for attention then probably complains she can’t get a job. She looks like a witch, it’s creepy, wouldn’t want that in any place of work, probably on drugs, etc etc”)

I told her to stop it, as she was being very rude and judgmental but kept going and saying increasingly worse things about L, not even toning down her vitriol in front of the kids. I’ll be honest, I wasn’t the best guy when I was younger and if I’d seen L when I was in school I probably would have made fun of her too but we’re all adults here and I think it’s time we left that attitude behind us.

Even if I didn’t know L, I’d think that sort of talk inappropriate, especially as my oldest is very impressionable and due to start school in September and I don’t want him thinking that’s an acceptable way to behave. My wife was bullied severely during her teen years and she’s told me how much of an impact it has to this day.

Eventually I just told her to shut up and stop acting like the same bullies that made her life hell when she was in school. She shut up quick. She hasn’t spoken to me since and I got an angry text from SIL telling me I hurt my wife ‘beyond words’ and how dare I compare her to her school bullies who traumatized her so badly as a teenager.

I’ve tried explaining my side and how I want to set a good example for the kids and also that L was a friend of mine (who gave us a congratulations card when we had both our children) but neither one will listen and I’m thinking I might have gone too far.”

Here’s how folks on Reddit responded to the man’s story.

One person said he’s NTA and he needed to call her out on this.

Photo Credit: Reddit

Another person also said he’s NTA.

Photo Credit: Reddit

And one individual said he needs to have a mature conversation with his wife about this one when she calms down.

Photo Credit: Reddit

Real talk… nobody should have to do this with their spouse.