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“One thing that caught me off guard after getting married — Why do you value your work? What are your feelings about PTO? My husband is the guy that never calls off work. I’ve seen him go to work straight from the hospital, once right after collapsing at home, and instead of taking a dying cat to the vet. Because work is his priority, I am the one that uses my PTO for emergencies in life. Sometimes this might mean taking PTO to make him take his PTO to get to a doctor. Now there isn’t anything inherently right or wrong about his choice to prioritize work, but it makes it hard to see eye to eye about how we spend our PTO.”
“Usually, I only get one or two weeks a year with him outside of weekends. I travel alone a few times a year to use the rest of my time, and/or run errands throughout the year. You wouldn’t think these tendencies matter so much, but this is how you choose to spend your free time together and what your priorities are. But there’s a positive note! After 17 years together, he’s taking more trips and time off with me. He’s realizing that our time together is limited and he wants more of it.”
—u/Lilliputian0513
Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/mayaogolini/small-details-to-consider-before-getting-married
