People Share Signs That Your “Friend” Isn’t A Real Friend, And It’s Eye-Opening

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“If anything y’all do together is always steered towards what they want to do. It’s easy to miss initially when you’re getting to know their likes and interests, but once you know them, it becomes clear that they’re just using you as some kind of emotional or physical accessory. I had a friend like this for a while. We always did what he wanted, and he just wasn’t that interested in what I liked or enjoyed. He’d sort of rope me into whatever he wanted to do, and I progressively got to the point where I felt like I was being used.”

“After a while, he pressured me into sleeping over at his place, I obliged as we’d been drinking, and I didn’t feel great about driving home. He took my keys and said something to the effect of, ‘You’ll get these back in the morning.’ He wanted me to share his bed — which I’ve done before with many other guy friends, so it wasn’t abnormal. However, it was the way he said as I was laying on the couch that made me uncomfortable.

He then asked if I wanted to cuddle, and I politely declined. It then clicked for me that I was only there to fill a need for him. If it had been one of my other close guy friends who reciprocated my interests and needs, I may have been comfortable. I realized he wasn’t interested in me for me, only in what I could provide him (i.e. emotional or physical attention). To be honest, I don’t think it would have progressed beyond cuddling (I was in a relationship, too), but the way he pressured me made me feel used and uncomfortable.

I peaced out the early next morning and kept my distance from him after that. It took me a while to work up the courage to tell my girlfriend about it because I felt stupid for being in that position and feeling used. Moral of the story: Respect yourself enough to watch out for your own interests and needs. Just because you want to be a friend to someone doesn’t mean you have to be or that it’s the best thing for you.” —u/vudoomamajuju

Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/victoriavouloumanos/friendship-red-flags

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