The clinic I used told me from the beginning that, in addition to the anonymity thing, I wouldn’t be given any updates post-retrieval. Even after my final cycle, when I asked if they could tell me how many kids had been produced from my eggs, the most they would say, more or less, was, “There’s a reason we let you donate so many times.”
But, it turns out that isn’t everyone’s experience. While doing some research for this post, I came across a 2015 BuzzFeed article by another donor, Katie O’Reilly, who’d reached out to their agency several months after their retrieval.
“I sent the agency an email, desperate to find out how everybody was faring,” the donor writes. “Within three terse lines, I learned that ‘my’ birth mother had become pregnant with triplets, but had miscarried two of them.”
Considering my own experience, I was pretty shocked that she’d received this much detail. It gave me new insight into Cornell’s policy, which I’m grateful for in retrospect. Even though I know there would have been nothing I could have done differently, finding out that my egg recipients had gone through a miscarriage or stillbirth would have made me terribly sad for them.
If this information is something that’s important to you, I recommend asking the clinic right off the bat what their policy is about sharing information.
Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/jessg/things-to-know-about-donating-eggs