Being The ‘Bad Cop’ Parent Makes The Moments I Get To Be ‘Good Cop’ Much More Rewarding

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If you’ve ever watched a family sitcom, chances are you’re familiar with the good cop/bad cop parenting style. It’s a classic among TV parents. If you pay attention, you’ll notice that most times, moms are the ones getting the reputation for being too strict.

It’s not that moms have a tough time toeing the line of fun and discipline. Actually, we all find ways to do it that we’re comfortable with. The bigger problem seems to be that moms being the so-called disciplinarian are judged way more harshly than dads are.

Peoples’ reactions to my parenting have led me to question if I’m the “bad cop”. I never raise a hand and hardly raise my voice, yet somehow I’m viewed as super-strict. I’m not inflexible, but I am a “call it as I see it” kind of person and that can rub people the wrong way.

The idea that people saw me as strict briefly made me very uncomfortable. It was to the point I caught myself questioning my moves. Then I realized that I was questioning myself on the wrong side’s behalf. It doesn’t matter if my parenting upsets other people, but it does matter if it’s upsetting the balance of my family. I find that most of the time, my inaction will upset that balance more than anything else.

I’ve come to accept I’m the perceived bad cop, but there is a whole other side to that. Sometimes, occasions rear their head that allows me to realize being bad makes way for a lot of warmth and understanding when I get to be good.

Source : https://www.littlethings.com/being-bad-cop/

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