If you believe that the relationship with your colleagues is not the most important part of your career then you are wrong. Research shows that if you have a friendly relationship with your coworkers, your productivity increases quite significantly. But, unfortunately, when we start working at a new place, we may make mistakes that we don’t even notice. And in order to prevent them, we offer you to take a look at the most common ones.
We at Bright Side hope that you have a really friendly team at work but if you don’t, our article will help you fix some of the problems.
You don’t remember names.
“A person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”
Famous public speaker and author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie, recommends calling people by their names from the moment you’ve met them because this way you will both memorize the name and demonstrate respect toward the other person.
You don’t bring tasty foods.
When someone comes over to your place, your duty is to give them tasty food. But what should you do at work? If you want to do something nice for your colleagues and earn yourself a reputation of a nice person, bring some treats to work.
You don’t have to spend a day in the kitchen (even though it would be really cool), you can just buy some cookies and share them with everyone. And if this becomes a tradition for the entire team, you will never be hungry at work.
You are afraid of adding your colleagues on social media.
If you want to learn more about the company you work for and become friends with your colleagues, you should find out more about their interests and achievements. First, it will help you find something to talk about, and second, you will learn what you shouldn’t talk about. The most important thing is not to spread the information you get from other people. You don’t want to be known as a gossip, right?
You are trying to communicate too much.
Of course, it would be great if everyone started to like you at once, but if you are too persistent, this may repel your colleague. Look closer at the people who work with you. You have to develop a way of communicating with every person, because some of them love chatting, and others are less communicative.
Don’t try to make friends fast. Don’t share very personal information: remember that such conversations should not be held at work.
You don’t compliment.
Here, the same thing that we discussed above works. If you notice the advantages and talents of your colleagues without flattery and if you give sincere compliments, this will give you a reputation of an open and kind person. The most important things are honesty and moderation.
And it’s best to avoid compliments that can be misunderstood. Complimenting your coworker’s report and complimenting their eyes are 2 really different things.
You are not neutral.
If you notice that there are certain groups of colleagues at your work, don’t take sides. It’s important to stay neutral because if you don’t, your reputation and good relationships with the entire team may be affected.
Be polite and kind to everyone, no matter what their social status is. Stay away from all negative words about other people. In a long-term perspective, such a position will let you stay positive all the time which is great for productivity.
You don’t watch your body language.
Body language is really important in any communication. We can subconsciously send signals that our coworkers receive. These signals might make them stop communicating with us in a friendly manner. Having a sad face all the time, objects pointed at other people, your voice — these things can repel coworkers from you. If you want to make a good first impression on people you communicate with, use these tricks:
- Look at the person you are talking to.
- Turn your body to people when they are talking to you.
- Smile politely if it’s possible.
- Don’t point your finger or any objects at people.
- Don’t cover your mouth when talking.
Following these simple recommendations will help you become a nice person to talk to.
We hope you will find our recommendations useful. Maybe you know some other ways to build a good relationship with colleagues? Share them in the comments section below.
Illustrated by Igor Polushin for BrightSide.me