It’s great when your relationship is harmonious and positive. However, sometimes you might be mistakenly feeling it’s good when really, there’s something wrong with it. Unfortunately, our habits can often annoy or even force our partners to leave.
Search for such saboteurs with the help of Bright Side and let’s try to get rid of them together!
1. Always criticizing yourself
Oftentimes, we end up criticizing ourselves, not even thinking that our imperfections are only visible to us. Your partner might not even notice them or pay as much attention to them as you do. If you constantly talk about your flaws, you might eventually convince your other half to believe the same thing.
2. Being judgemental to everyone around you
When one of the partners in a relationship is always annoyed, sooner or later it will change the flow of the relationship. Of course, you can find the negative as well as the positive in literally everything around you, but listening to someone’s whining all the time can get really annoying.
3. Being the perfect spouse
Trying to be perfect for your partner is a trap because sooner or later, both you and your partner will get tired of it. When you show your good side all the time, resentment can build up inside of you, leading to unpredictable circumstances. Keep in mind that self-sufficient people aren’t afraid to express their negative emotions.
4. Relying solely on your own opinion
Usually, it’s people who have been single for quite a long time that have this habit. This is because they’re not used to having someone with their own opinion about the household, the relationship, and life in general. In order to keep the relationship balanced, both partners have to listen to each other and find the golden middle between their own opinion and the opinion of their partner.
5. Looking for lies and tricks around every corner
Excessive suspicion can cause your partner to feel fatigued and angry because they might get the feeling that you don’t trust them. If the trust isn’t there, your partner will feel like they’re always being watched. It’s difficult to live your life when someone is always accusing you of deception.
6. Spending more than you can afford
Inept handling of money whether it’s overspending or excess greed is likely to cause a conflict in any relationship sooner or later. It’s important for partners to agree on how they handle their finances from the beginning and follow through on their agreement.
7. Always having to control everything
You can’t control everything no matter how hard you try. Our life is unpredictable and it’s great! Your constant attempts to control your other half show that you don’t trust your life, your surroundings, or yourself.
8. Comparing your partner all the time
This habit indicates that a person lacks self-confidence — they keep waiting for you to tell them that everything they have is better. Sooner or later, your partner will get tired of such an attitude. Instead of comparing yourself to others, it’s better to pay attention to your own life and stop evaluating other people.
9. Giving hints instead of saying things directly
If your relationship is based on hints, it means that either you or your partner can’t express your thoughts and wishes openly. This is because saying something directly means you have to take full responsibility for your words. If you do this, don’t expect your partner to always understand what you’re getting at.
10. Recalling all past mistakes
When you keep tracking and counting mistakes in your relationship, it only leads to new conflicts. These issues should be solved right then and there instead of being kept bottled up for years.
Have you ever noticed yourself doing these things in your relationship? We’d be glad to hear from you in the comments!
Illustrated by Natalia Breeva for BrightSide.me