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“I’m an Asian woman and was born and raised in Canada. English is the only language I’m fluent in. I was educated in English-speaking schools, grew up with mostly white kids, and now work predominantly with white people. Naturally, I have white friends and have dated white guys. And I can tell you, it’s a no-win situation. It’s racist for white guys to take an interest in me because of yellow fever, but it’s equally racist for people (white or otherwise) to assume that if I’m with a white guy, it MUST be because I prefer white guys and he has yellow fever. It might be different if I barely spoke English and had grown up in a different country with a different culture, therefore having little in common with my white, English-speaking husband; but me, I’m honestly likely to have more in common with men who, like me, grew up in Canada, regardless of their race.”
“I have been surrounded by white people my whole life, but I can’t date them without worrying that they have yellow fever, or that people will assume that he does, or that people will judge me for dating him.
Even when I dated a Black guy, someone told me that Black men like Asian girls. When I dated an Asian guy as Westernized as I am, people assumed we were together because we were both Westernized Asians, not because of anything else.
What can you do? The world is racist. No matter whom I date, people are going to notice first that I’m an Asian woman and draw conclusions about my relationship based on that (and his race), no matter what the reality may be. I cannot win.” —Anonymous, Female, Canada
Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/victoriavouloumanos/asian-dating-racism