Mom-In-Law Starts Internet Debate After Charging Christmas Lunch Guests $21 a Plate


The holidays are a wonderful time to spend with friends, family, and other loved ones you don’t really have a label for because it’s 2018 and all. And depending on how generous of an individual you are, all of that holiday cheer could cause a pretty big dent in your wallet.

Personally it’s not something I stress over — I just try to pick up extra gigs wherever I can or have a few nights without sleep so I can drive Lyft (thank God for modern technology) to try and soften the blow of dropping tons of greenbacks on the people I care about in my life.

But for others, it’s not so simple, especially if you’re the one who’s expected to handle all of the festivities/food for everyone during the holidays.

The expense of being a host is a real thing and making home-cooked meals often costs more than ordering out.


Judging from this woman’s post, it sounds like her mother-in-law has had enough of digging into her own pocket to prepare Christmas lunch for everyone and not getting a single dollar back for her efforts.

In a question posed to Mumsnet by user Staceyjas, she revealed that her husband’s mother just asked all of the guests who plan on attending her Christmas lunch to bring $21 per head in order to pay for the meal.


She genuinely wanted to know if anyone else had experienced anything like this before, because, as her comment indicates, her husband wasn’t too happy about it. He felt conflicted about handing cash and said he’d rather bring food, and that it was the first time such a stipulation was ever brought up for Christmas lunch.


What makes it even worse for the guy is that he just can’t excuse himself from the awkward situation as he’s been having lunch there his entire life. Then there’s the fact that his mom isn’t exactly “financially destitute.”

Here’s what she wrote in full:

“[Am I being unreasonable] to think you should ask family to pay for their Xmas lunch? My partner has just told me that his mother who he’s having Christmas lunch with said she wants £17 per head from him! I’m going to my family’s for lunch so invited him also but he has had it there all his life with his grandparents and siblings too. she said she doesn’t want to do it all from scratch and wants to get it all pre-done so it’s more money, which I understand but he’s gutted and feels like he wants to come to my family now. I can see it from both sides and it’s hard work and can be expensive but not like she is financially destitute.”

StaceyJas then finally asked if anyone else has experienced something like this in the past:

“This has never happened before and he has offered to bring the dessert etc but he said handing over cash just feels wrong. As he says it’s about family not money but I wanted to see what other people’s opinions are? Or if you do this.”


Her question garnered a lot of responses, and it seems like people were conflicted over the issue. More than a few saw the mother-in-law’s side of the story, stating that the Christmas dinners she’s hosted for people in the past have cost her upwards of $500.

“It’s really expensive to cater for Christmas dinner for a lot of people,” says  formerbabe, recalling a dinner she hosted. “It cost me over £400. If we do Christmas with my family, we will share cost of food or all bring different components of the dinner…Don’t think of it as her charging you but instead think of it as you all contributing to the cost of the food.”


Others agreed with Staceyjas’ husband, and said that it probably would’ve been a better idea for people to instead contribute food and specific dishes instead of just gathering money for the “cost of the food.” But she did see where the mother-in-law was coming from.

“Personally I wouldn’t, says another poster, “but if someone asked me for cash I’d pay — it’s really expensive hosting, particularly at an expensive time of the year. When we have had Christmas meals as a big group of friends, we split the cost.”  


Then there were people, like user raisedbyguineapigs, who thought $21 a head price sounded a bit extreme for what was basically a “posh roast dinner.” She advised Stacey to convince her hubby to just go to her family’s dinner instead.

Then there were people who were absolutely aghast at the idea of asking guests for money to host a Christmas lunch, like PersonalNonGarter:

“OMG! No! $*#!, that is horrible.
We host Christmas: buy the turkey and pudding, everyone else brings a dish eg sausages in blankets etc. That shares the cost and the work.
Cannot think of anything less hospitable than setting the menu and demanding your ‘guests’ pay for it.”


Whatnametouse agreed that it’d be a travesty to ask as well and offered some pretty sage advice if the host felt that the financial burden was too high.

“Take turns each year or ask people to bring a dish if you are short on cash.”

One prevailing opinion was that individuals who were hosting large-scale dinners for big families would have every right to ask people to help chip in. One person even mentioned that they had 29 people coming over for dinner, so they wrote out the cost and asked everyone to chip in a few dollars to help offset what it cost them to make the meal.


However, new information from StaceyJas in the comment thread revealed that her mum-in-law was only cooking for four people and a toddler. She couldn’t understand what made it different from any other Sunday lunch?

“My point is she don’t charge him for a normal Sunday roast and it’s just added bits so why can’t he bring them?”

What do you think? Would you charge someone cash for hosting a Christmas lunch that you’re picking out the menu for? Or should mother just bite the bullet and foot the bill herself?

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Moms Are Now Competing to See Who Can Pack the Best School Lunch


Actress Jenny Mollen is the queen of packing school lunches — or as she calls them on Instagram, #dictatorlunches. Jenny, who is married to fellow actor Jason Biggs, does not hold back when it comes to her son Sid’s lunchbox creations, and luckily for her followers, she shares a photo of them daily on her Instagram account. 

“I think I might need to be committed w this one,” she captioned a shot of a lunch that included Asian sushi rice (in the shape of a bunny), teriyaki chicken with pineapple, organic berries, and shrimp tempura. For another masterful lunch photo, she wrote. “Should I send an additional bowl for shells? (From right: Crab legs w dipping sauce, blinis w creme fraiche and paddlefish, strawberry grape cheer pyramid, lemon wedge).” 

However, Jenny is not the only mom that is overachieving when it comes to her child’s cafeteria meals. In fact, it is getting downright competitive. 


Mom Aviva Wettenberg dedicates her entire Instagram account to her lunch packing skills. She evens has a website dedicated to the art. “Few things used to fill me with as much dread as packing lunches until I decided to document the lunches I was packing and started to look for inspiration outside of my own kitchen,” she explained. “I share my girls’ lunches on Instagram every day and will highlight some of my tips and tricks here.”

One of those tips is to use the LaLa Lunchbox app — which helps you plan your week out ahead of time and provides fun recipes to try. Another pro tip: the reusable PlanetBox — which sorts your school lunches into tiny compartments, providing optimal Instagram content. 


Aviva is also able to coordinate two school lunches, with very different dietary restrictions. One is vegetarian, the other is dairy-free. “Two on-the-go lunches today. Thanks to the weather, my big kid has outdoor lunch (how amazing is that??) and my little one is off on a field trip for the day,” she wrote alongside a photo of nearly identical-looking packed lunches. “Little sandwiches for both — smoked tofu and spinach for one, chèvre, blackberries and mint for the other — and a pair of green salads.” 


While Aviva and Jenny are hard to top when it comes to their gourmet school lunches, they have some stiff mom competition. Like Happy Little Lunch, who chronicles the lunches she packs for her vegan daughter in the second grade. “My alarm didn’t go off this morning and, man, this almost didn’t happen,” she captioned a photo of a school lunch that did not seemed rushed at all. “All you evening lunch packers are on to something, but I guess I like living dangerously!” She still managed to whip up cinnamon toast sticks, baked tofu, crispy kale, pear slices and grapes. 

Or Catherine McCord of Weelicious, who creates videos of her school lunch box creations. “To know me is to know my love of Trader Joe’s, so I made a lunch featuring some of my favorite organic go-to foods,” she wrote.” The ingredients are affordable, healthy, great for both kids and adults 👩‍👧, and ALL from Trader Joe’s. Here’s what’s inside:

  •  Inside-out bagel sandwich (I used TJ’s gluten-free bread, everything bagel seasoning + whipped cream cheese)
  • Multicolored baby carrots with tomato + basil hummus
  • Honey wheat pretzels (to dip in the hummus)
  • Apriums • Freeze-dried strawberries + blueberries (crunchy + sweet).” 


Social media is full of moms that want their followers to know that the traditional packed school lunch of a peanut butter and jelly sandwich with a carton of apple juice, and some chips — or god forbid, cafeteria food – is not good enough for their kid. Meet Heather, whose Instagram account @thedailylunchboxspot, is dedicated to the meals she preps for her 3- and 4-year-olds. 

“Got a little cookie cutter happy with today’s lunch, but I find that my kiddos will often try foods that look cute over foods that don’t,” she captioned one boxed lunch. “PB&J on whole wheat (replace with sunbutter or cream cheese & jam if bringing to school), tiny crackers with cheese and roasted turkey, little bell pepper hearts on top of peas, grilled pineapple (used a grill pan on the stove. Gives it a smoky flavor that’s a little less tangy) and dark chocolate covered raisins in the treat spot.”


So, what happens when dads try to take over school lunches? Just ask Jason, who had to take over for Jenny when she went out of town. By the end of the week, let’s just say Jason was over the whole “pretty lunch box” idea. “Guess what?? That little ^%#@ did NOT eat the avocado,” he jokingly captioned a photo of a very ripe avocado and some cash inside the lunch box. “He actually threw it away and told me he ate it. Anyway, here’s Sid’s final #daddylunch. Clockwise from top left: organic half-avocado (aged 5 days, found in dumpster behind pre-school), and 9 bucks (just go to the bodega and get whatever you want and NEVER LIE TO ME AGAIN, OK SID?!).” 

At the end of the day, this #kidslunchbox trend is making us realize our parents were just straight up lazy. (Just kidding mom, love you and your basic ham-and-cheese sandwiches). 

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This Awesome Principal Took On Cafeteria Service When The Lunch Room Was Short-Staffed

School administrators aren’t really known for being the hardest working people in their respective buildings.

While teachers are dealing head-on with problematic students, staying after class and paying for school supplies out of their own pockets, administrators have a reputation for being kind of “hands-off” when it comes to doing the dirty work in a school.

Although this isn’t the case for all school principals, there’s definitely a growing trend of young, Ivy League school graduates coming into districts without a lick of actual teaching experience. Just a handful of certifications and an inability to connect with their staff or garner any respect.

This awesome Texas principal, however, isn’t one of those “untouchable” school administrators. And she proved it on a busy breakfast morning when her school’s cafeteria was short-staffed.

Some 400 students were lined up for breakfast at Mead Elementary School in San Antonio when Annette Lopez discovered that the breakfast lines were reduced to one measly queue. So she slapped on a hair net, an apron, and some gloves and went to work.

“When you serve that many students, there is no way that one line is just going to do it. I loved it and the kids had fun, (and) one of the kids said, ‘Hey, I know you,’ and I said, “Yes, I’m the principal,” Lopez said in an interview with local news outlet KSAT

The kids were delighted to see their principal serving them their morning meal, and once word got out to the teachers about Lopez’s good deed, they whipped out their phones and began snapping pictures of their principal in action.

“The kids loved it. They were like, ‘Ms. Lopez, I didn’t know you were a cafeteria lady, too.’ And so I kept telling them, ‘You know, principals do whatever it takes. It got around to the teachers, and that’s when they started taking pictures.” 

Like a true educator, Lopez turned the moment into a teachable one.

“They kept saying, ‘But, you’re the principal.’ And I kept saying, ‘It doesn’t matter what your job title is, if someone needs help, then you do it,'”  Lopez responded.

People online were struck by Lopez’s willingness to help in any situation.

They even started sharing instances of other awesome educators who went above and beyond the call of duty.

When it comes to serving your community’s children, you’re going to be expected to do some things outside of your particular job description.

The same goes for most jobs – if you’re industrious and want things to get done, then how can you not be an asset?

Or deciding to go that extra mile to make your job that much more special to you and those around you – who isn’t going to admire that?

Just look at the reputation you build up for yourself as a result if you do – just make sure you’re getting the respect for it that you deserve and people don’t take advantage of you so much that you’re getting burnt out and neglecting your other job duties.

That same kind of positive attitude extends to your students and those who look up to you. They’ll want to follow the good example you set.

In turn, they’ll make other people feel awesome for taking the time to do something wholesome, which gets a bad rap these days.

Sure, it might be “corny”, to make someone feel good about doing a good job, but only jaded losers think like that. Annette Lopez and other educators like her deserve a resounding head nod.

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