21 Easy Ways to Become a Better Boyfriend

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Dating can be difficult to navigate. If you’ve been single for a while and are used to going through life like a lone wolf, it can be hard to put another person’s needs before your own. And even if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s easy to get into a routine and stop doing the small things that made your girlfriend fall in love with you in the first place.

No matter where you’re at in life and in love, there’s always the chance to be a better partner to your woman. A recent Askreddit had people sharing cute anecdotes about their partners, so we decided to compile 21 small things you can do to become the kind of boyfriend your girlfriend will to brag to her friends about.

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Keep her warm.

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Keep on surprising her.

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Come to her rescue.

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If you pick a fight, make it better.

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Ask about traditions that are important to her.

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Comfort her.

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Carry the burden when she’s not feeling 100.

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Give her meaningful gifts.

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Plan ahead.

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Remember: sickness *and* health.

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Tell her things.

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Hint: Girls love presents.

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Start the day off right.

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Figure out how to deal with her moods.

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Pick her up when she’s down.

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I’m telling you — girls are always cold.

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Make her feel safe.

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Make her feel loved.

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Cook her dinner.

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Put her needs ahead of yours.

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Make her dreams come true.

Source : https://undefined/relationships/2018/10/19/Z1xdEEW/qualities-of-a-good-boyfriend

Woman Reveals in Shocking Post That Her Boyfriend May Be Drugging Her, Then Discovers the Truth

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It’s a horrifying thought to believe that the person you’re in love with secretly, deep down inside, is capable of not only manipulating you emotionally, but physically abusing and harming you in downright evil ways.

Sadly, there’s no shortage of stories on the internet where this is exactly the case. People’s wives, husbands, girlfriends, and boyfriends are, unfortunately, often involved in some pretty heinous acts against their significant others.

Something that Redditor IntrepidSport thought her boyfriend was guilty of when she started waking up in her bed with red spots on her body and no memory of what had occurred the night before. All she was left with was the “aftermath” and a ton of questions.

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The severity of her suspicions makes me question why she decided to jump on reddit for advice right away instead of getting tested first, but when you’re afraid that your boyfriend, who’s also a doctor, might be drugging and sexually assaulting you, I can’t imagine that going about things methodically and with a clear head is really an option.

This is in north Texas.

Hey so I must apologize if this post is jumbled a bit. I started typing it up in Word yesterday before my date and forgot about it before finishing it today.

I think my boyfriend has been secretly drugging me for a while now and is gaslighting me. I know this is going to be hard to explain, but I have been having gaps in memory that I have been explaining away as being tired, or overworked, or whatever else. I was going to ask my boyfriend about it, since he is a doctor, but then I started to notice that this seems to happen when I go on dates with him.

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I know it must be crazy, but I have woken up with dried semen on my breasts several times with no memory of the night before. I know its him as… well I wont get into specifics but he likes that kind of thing more than other guys would… 

The first time it happened was when we were drinking and I wrote it off as too much to drink. We get drunk and have sex all the time so its not a big deal to me. But then there were a few times when I KNOW we were not drinking. 

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I decided to break up with him over it only to suddenly find myself on a date with him a few days later. I had not yet had the conversation to break up with him, but planned on it next time I talked with him. I remember being at the restaurant, but nothing before that. My car and his car was in the parking lot too so I was confused. 

I decided to play along when he asked me to come back to his place.

After 3 days at his place I remembered everything so I was started to trust him again. Knowing he was an ENT I know it won’t be his forte but he is a doctor. I was going to ask him about my issues when he randomly pointed to these red bumps on my thigh and said I should be treating those sores.

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I had completely forgotten they were there. These little red bumps that look like needle injections that got infected. I got so freaked out he mentioned them that I decided to leave.

The next day he came over to “Check on me” and I remember waking up in bed with more dried semen on my chest. 

Then today he met me for lunch saying we had agreed to meet. I never agreed to meet with him and would never want to. He does this all the time, saying we agreed to do something I have no memory of.

I am sick and tired of it and want him punished.

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This has started to affect my work life as well as I start to get paranoid when I see a boss walk into a room after making eye contact with me. I get paranoid that they are about to fire me. My friends also state I have been acting strangely and out of character. I have even begun to lose sleep and sleepwalk when I do. 

Is there a way to have blood work done to see what kind of drug he is using on me? I do not want the police to blow me off and push me away as some crazy lady so I want to be sure when I go to the police. 

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Her account of events, although scattered, is horrifying to read. She was convinced that her boyfriend was guilty of injecting her with some type of drug that spurred her memory loss, but after paying close attention to her recounting of events, it seemed a bit off.

The fact that her symptoms cleared up while she was staying at his house doesn’t make sense, something that some other redditors also picked up on. Also, the red marks on her arms becoming infected is another thing that got commenters thinking they weren’t needle prick marks at all, but something much more disgusting.

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Bedbug bites:

You mentioned red bumps on your thigh, insomnia, memory loss, paranoia and anxiety?

Pull the sheets off your mattress please. Check in the little creases for brown specs or encrusted brown flakes.

These symptoms sounds eerily familiar to what happened to a friend of mine. We thought he was going crazy. Turns out he was having a severe reaction to long term bedbug bites.

You mentioned that you remember everything that happened at his place but as soon as you got home it started up again?

Bedbugs can cause psychological symptoms if the reaction is severe enough.

I would check the lip of the mattress first to see if you have bedbugs.

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Now, I know that bedbugs are nearly impossible to get rid of, and cleaning a home that’s infested with the little nasty monsters is a Herculean task that’s expensive, time-consuming, and annoying. Most people who have furniture or clothing infested with bedbugs seal them up and burn them.

What I didn’t know is that bedbug bites can have such a wide-ranging and severe breadth of reactions in different people. A litany of different mental health problems could arise from long-term exposure to bedbugs and mites. I’m getting itchy just thinking about it.

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IntrepidSport, after reading the replies to her post, decided to check her mattress and see if there were any bedbugs there.

Wait Seriously? Does it look like dried chocolate or poop chunks along the seam of the mattress?

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Yes. That what you see?

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Yes. All long the left side of my mattress by the wall.

–  IntrepidSport 

Her reddit thread’s currently locked, and she hasn’t updated the post, but it could very well be that the source of her memory loss isn’t because she’s being drugged by her boyfriend at all, but a case of horrible bedbugs. This is like something out of a horror movie, for both OP and her boyfriend.

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It’s not like everyone in the comments section of her post is wiping their hands and saying, “Well this problem is solved,” though. They’re still encouraging her to get checked out by a doctor (who isn’t her boyfriend) and get blood work done to see if she has been drugged.

Hey.

Former professional pest control guy here with lots of experience with bedbugs. I will happily answer any questions about bedbugs.

My first bit of advice is for you to get professional treatment of the bedbugs. It is not cheap, but they are incredibly difficult to get rid of. Bedbugs can survive a year or more without feeding and do cause a wide array of psychological issues due to prolonged extremely poor sleep. I sincerely hope this is the cause of your issues, but I would also talk to your doctor (not your boyfriend) about your symptoms. Request blood work.

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Getting rid of bedbugs, if it has been a long-term infestation, is no joke. It is not as simple as disposing of the mattress and washing clothes. Those $!#*ers get into wood, they get into damn near well everything.

If you are the victim of a long term infestation, EVERYTHING needs to go. All your wooden/pressboard(ikea type) furniture. Your clothes and bedding need to be nuked in super hot water. Anything you have that shouldn’t be washed that way can be dry cleaned, I believe this kills them as well. Mattresses gone, carpet, everything.

These mother$!#*ers are hell to get rid of once they have dug in. They can get into drywall. We had to dispose of a great deal of wooden furniture, have several walls replaced, towels, bedding, mattresses – all gone. Then had the exterminators in. And we didn’t get them the first time. We had to come back over everything again. Now those $!#*ers are gone. $!#* them!

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But here’s hoping that the issue is a critter infestation and not an ornate, systematic process of assault orchestrated by her boyfriend on a nightly basis. I think this would be one of the only cases where someone’s mental health deteriorating due to bedbug bites is a cause for celebration.

Source : https://undefined/trending/2018/10/10/NloyR/bedbugs-memory-loss

A Pregnant Woman Asked Her Boyfriend to Gain Weight With Her and the Internet Is Divided

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It’s natural for guys to seek advice on the world wide web when they discover they are going to be a dad for the first time.  

However, one man’s pregnancy-related question sparked a contentious debate on reddit when he revealed that his girlfriend asked him to gain weight with her over the next nine months.

“Just last week my girlfriend found out that she’s pregnant. We are both gym rats and run and lift a lot but her question to me was startling,” he wrote. “She asked me while she’s pregnant to get fat with her. I really don’t want to lose my body but I am just so unsure about this. Anyone got tips?”

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And users on the online forum were definitely divided over the topic. For the most part, people sided with the dad-to-be, and thought his girlfriend was being selfish. 

“She doesn’t have to get fat while pregnant. And that request is extremely unreasonable,” one wrote. Another agreed, adding, “For a lot of couples, the dad gains weight with his pregnant woman by accident anyway, but encouraging it is really a bad idea especially looking at the lack of time and stress a baby brings. Losing weight will drop down the priority list and that’s even more stupid if the weight was gained on purpose and completely unnecessarily.”

A third offered this bleak prediction: 

Short answer: Do not fall for this. Don’t gain this ‘sympathy’ weight. Stick to your health.

Otherwise I imagine two scenarios: 1) Your GF will resent you for being healthy while she’s being unhealthy (She’ll hate on you for looking great while she ‘has’ to look bad) or 2) She’ll resent you for the weight gain you both agreed to (sounds irrational but I swear that sounds like a real possibility with someone who’s just asked you to give up your health like this), meaning you’ll have both given up your health for a bunch of meaningless arguing about how you ‘let’ her get fat, or helped encourage it. Then you’ll resent her. Cue endless cycle.

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Instead of criticizing the pregnant girlfriend, others sympathized with her and offered @GlutenFreejk some advice for how to make her feel better about losing her gym figure. 

“She’s insecure about her weight. Focus on her, compliment her new curves, do something that shows you still care about her regardless of her temporary appearance,” one redditor recommended. Another suggested, “She WILL gain weight, and normal-sized women are supposed to gain 25-35lbs. More than anything, reassure her that she looks great during and after pregnancy and help make healthy meals and work out with her throughout so she doesn’t feel abandoned.”

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Some pointed out that while he might not plan to gain weight with his pregnant partner, chances are he will. “I think that this is a bit of a crazy request, but you also are likely to either gain weight or be somewhat of a sh–ty dad. Pregnancy is incredibly demanding, and you should be treating her right. That means less time at the gym and more time helping her, attending classes, doctors’ appointments, etc,” they explained.

But wait… is she actually trying to help her boyfriend out like another redditor believes? “Dude she obviously knows she’s gonna be a nervous, jealous pregnant wreck and SHE is trying to help YOU,” they wrote. “You see, if you get fat then you don’t have to worry about her getting jealous of other girls since you’ll be fat, so she won’t have to eat you for existing in a fit of rage. She’s trying to help, man.”

All jokes aside, plenty of the women on the website — many of them moms themselves — urged the concerned boyfriend to remind his GF that she can exercise and stay active during her pregnancy.  

“If you have been going to the gym, she should continue going to the gym. Active people can remain active. People act like if you get pregnant you have to treat yourself like you are made of glass, but you really don’t,” one woman noted. “I was going to a personal trainer when I got pregnant with my second, and continued throughout my whole pregnancy. My doctor told me there was no reason I couldn’t keep doing what I was doing.”

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And always remember, mamas-to-be, “Pregnancy weight gain isn’t ‘getting fat.’ It’s a combination of the baby’s own weight, and her body building an entire life support system to supply the growing baby with everything they need. If she doesn’t gain that weight, the baby won’t be healthy. It’s not fat, it’s building an entire new human being out of your body.”

Preach. 

Source : https://undefined/trending/2018/09/26/Z1ROREo/pregnant-wife-asks-husband-gain-weight

The World's Sexiest Weather Girl Got Dumped by Her Boyfriend so He Can Play More Video Games

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The dating scene has gotten so rough that even people who are world-renowned for their attractiveness are having a tough time out there. A young couple who are well-known on social media is demonstrating how there is no amount of hotness you can possess that will protect you entirely from heartbreak and public embarrassment.

Yanet Garcia is a weather girl on a show in Mexico called Hoy. According to the New York Post, she accrued a lot of new fans while covering this year’s World Cup. Her ambition is to expand her career as an actress and model.

As you can see, she’s a babe:

She also kinda seems to have a sense of humor about herself.

26-year-old Garcia has been dating a 23-year-old YouTuber and professional video game player named Douglas Martin. While Garcia far outstrips him on Instagram, Martin has millions more followers on YouTube.

So it was to YouTube he went to announce that he and Garcia had split. Or more accurately, he dumped her. The reason?

To play more video games.

In the video, Martin says things have change between him and Garcia since she moved from their apartment in NYC to Mexico City to work on Hoy. He does say, “Yanet is an awesome girl, she deserves the best. She’s beautiful, she’s smart, she was an awesome girlfriend.”

He at least recognize that he’s losing a prize. But he seems to have very little self-awareness about how the rest of his reasoning sounds.

“I’m playing Call of Duty full-time now,” he says. “I’m literally sitting here every single night from 7 p.m…. sometimes until 5 a.m…. playing Call of Duty.”

“I’m on a contract. It’s not like I don’t want to do this, this is the career that I want. I want to win a ring, I want to win a world championship, what I want in my life at this very moment is to compete in Call of Duty because I love it so much. I’m going to do whatever it takes to be a champion.”

“There’s only 24 hours in a day and I just didn’t have enough time to do what I needed to do.”

You know what, fair enough. It is apparently possible to make video game playing a career. Martin is only 23, and this is what he wants. He is probably not the right guy for someone who lives in another country with completely divergent interests.

Frankly, Garcia deserves attention in her relationship anyway. I think once you hit your teen years, there’s no excuse for sitting around watching your boyfriend play video games. Get yourself a grown man, Garcia!

Sadly, she seems upset by the break-up, tweeting to her fans that she’s heartbroken and thanking them for their support.

She also wrote what some are calling a subtweet, in Spanish, which translates to, “Never listen to the advice of a person who has not done anything good with his life.”

Damn, girl, say how you really feel.

People do seem to be pretty supportive of Garcia in all this, even if they really, really love Call of Duty. But the vast majority of comments are people shooting their shot with Garcia:

Something tells me she won’t be single for long.

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Source : https://www.distractify.com/relationships/2018/07/25/1WutjJ/yanet-garcia-call-of-duty-break-up

This Woman Found Out Her Boyfriend Was Cheating From A Jimmy John's Delivery Guy

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There are some employees who go above and beyond to help a customer, even when it’s outside of their job description. And when it happens in the food service industry, that kind of behavior stands out.

Food service employees are some of the lowest paid in the USA, which is why it’s almost always amazing when someone working at a fast food joint doesn’t look entirely miserable at their job.

When’s the last time you had a fast food worker pour your hot drink with as much enthusiasm as this?

While the instances of outstanding service are few and far between, there are still some people out in the world who won’t let a crummy-paying job in a mostly thankless industry get in the way of them doing the right thing.

Something that this woman, Kayla, discovered when she ordered a Jimmy John’s sandwich to be delivered to her boyfriend. It was so incredible, she just had to share her experience.

It all started out with a kind gesture: getting her significant other something to eat while he was getting his study grind on. They were in a long-distance relationship.

She let the employee know that her boyfriend would be the one signing for the sandwich, since she wouldn’t be there.

She sent him a text letting him know that the food was coming and that he should leave a tip, but he didn’t respond. Probably because he was already taking a small snooze.

This is when things start to get a bit weird.

She had no idea why Jimmy John’s would be calling it. She bought the sandwich. Boyfriend got the sandwich, transaction completed. No need for a follow-up call.

The driver wanted to reconfirm that the order was for her boyfriend, which she thought was weird because she had given them the rundown previously.

That’s when the bombshell dropped.

Obviously agitated, flustered, and all sorts of shocked, Kayla needed to make sure the delivery driver saw what he saw. And that the guy in question was in fact her boyfriend.

He was. And Kayla was officially single thanks to a Jimmy John’s delivery driver who wasn’t afraid to speak up and let her know about the behavior.

Kayla was grateful to the sandwich franchise, and made sure to “@” them in all of her tweets, thanking them for hiring an honest worker who went out of the way to let her know about her man’s infidelity.

People felt bad that Kayla had to find out that way, but were in love with the story.

It turned already huge Jimmy John’s fans into even bigger ones.

While others thought that the call from the delivery guy came from a personal place.

Real recognize real, indeed.

Source : https://www.distractify.com/humor/2018/07/02/8sTgT/jimmy-johns-boyfriend-cheat

This Woman's Boyfriend Asked For World Cup Updates Via Text And She Delivered In Hilarious Detail

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Even people who never watch soccer (i.e. me) tend to get a little crazy around World Cup time. Serious FOMO occurs and I don’t want to miss a single game.

Any other time of the year, I wouldn’t care about a game between Japan and Colombia, but for some reason, I was upset I couldn’t watch the final 20 minutes of that game when my stream messed up. I’ve never even been to those countries and probably couldn’t name a single player on any of their national teams, but I wanted to know everything that happened nonetheless.

I could only imagine what World Cup Fever is like for people whose countries are actually playing. The stress, the anxiety, the depression, the ecstasy of a well-placed goal. It’s all very, very exciting.

Missing out on the action of a game is certainly not an option when you’re that intense of a fan, but when your country’s playing, it’s going to look pretty suspicious in the office if everyone suddenly gets sick or calls out of work. Or if there happens to be a “milestone life event” of a loved one or whatever, like a wedding or baptism, it stinks that missing it for a very important game isn’t a valid excuse.

So that’s when you have someone you trust, like a loved one, provide you with up-to-the-minute coverage of the game so you don’t miss a single beat. Which is exactly what this guy asked his girlfriend, Twitter user @lightningstarr to do when England was squaring up against Tunisia.

She obliged his request, but took a few liberties with the “updates,” going into a level of detail that was maybe a bit more than he asked for.

And the results were absolutely hilarious.

People loved her tweet.

And she responded, still totally in character.

In fact, her commentary was so good, it got Americans interested in watching the sport.

And she provided some key tips they should consider if they decided to become fans of the game.

As it turns out, @lightningstarr wasn’t the first to provide scintillating, overly-detailed information on soccer matches via text.

Rachel Haird during a Wales game a couple of years back related the same “extraneous” information via WhatsApp, and it was glorious.

Her messages were rife with jokes and awkward metaphors that were hilarious.

Honestly, I’d pay to hear commentary from Haird and @lightningstarr.

The sheer amount of jokes she’s able to squeeze in such a short amount of time, and the fact that I’m hearing it in a British announcer’s voice while reading them is amazing.

Seems like I’m not the only one who’s jonesing for some live commentary from these women.

Definitely something to read in between goals.

Source : https://www.distractify.com/humor/2018/06/21/Z1ts965/boyfriend-worldcup-updates

I Needed A Friend, Not Just A Boyfriend

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I liked the relationship-y parts of our relationship. Holding hands. Posting pictures across social media. Showing you off to my family. Having the title of boyfriend and girlfriend.

I liked cuddling with you. Kissing you. Sleeping with you. I liked taking you out to the park or to the mall and having everyone glance our way because we made such a cute couple.

I liked the times when I fell asleep with my head snuggled against your chest and when we held hands during movies and when you kissed the top of my forehead.

The rest of the time? I felt unfulfilled.

You were a decent boyfriend on paper — but that wasn’t all that I wanted from you. I also wanted a friend.

Technically, you would do all of the things boyfriends were supposed to do. You would text me first thing in the morning (but we would always have the same boring, bland conversations).

You would plan dates and take me on them over weekends (but we would spend more time staring at separate phones than making conversation).

You would invite me out with your friends so we could all hang out together (but I would end up sitting quietly in the corner, unwanted and uninvolved).

You would give me plenty of attention and attempt to cheer me up whenever I was in a bad mood (but you never succeeded).

We were boyfriend and girlfriend but we were never friends. We never made each other laugh. We never created inside jokes. We never connected. I felt like we were miles apart even when we were in the same room together, on the same couch, holding hands in silence (and those silences always felt awkward, never comfortable).

Even though you put in effort, which I appreciated, it always felt like something was missing when we were together. We were never at ease. We never let loose and acted silly. We had plenty of empty conversations about television shows and movies, but we never joked around and we never delved into anything real either. Our interactions felt forced.

We were dating, so I should have felt untroubled around you, but that was never the case. There were times when I had no idea what to say to you, when I was at a loss about how to continue the conversation. There were moments when I looked at you and wasn’t entirely sure how we fit together. The chemistry just wasn’t there.

Sure, you were attractive. You were nice. You were an all-around good guy. But I never had fun when we were together. Most of the time (unless I was enjoying the feeling of my head against your chest or your lips against my own) I was wishing I was someplace else.

The problem is that I wanted more than a boyfriend. I wanted a best friend. I wanted someone I felt completely comfortable alongside. Someone who could make me smile without trying too hard, who could make me feel beautiful without breaking a sweat, who could make me feel like enough naturally.

I want you to know you were a good boyfriend. But we just weren’t good enough friends to make our relationship last. TC mark

Source : https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2018/06/i-needed-a-friend-not-just-a-boyfriend/

This Woman With Anxiety Made A Checklist For Her Boyfriend That's Incredibly Helpful

Lots of people grapple with anxiety, which can manifest in a variety of ways. One of the most terrifying aspects of an actual anxiety disorder are panic attacks, which can be triggered by a variety of things and actually shut down a person’s body. People often go to the hospital thinking they’re having a heart attack, when what is actually happening is a panic attack. That’s how scary and painful they are.

Buzzfeed writer Kelsey Darragh went viral for her comprehensive list on things that can be done to help during a panic attack for her boyfriend, but which she thinks could benefit anyone in a relationship with somebody who has anxiety. If you haven’t experienced it, it can be hard to know what to do. Someone in the grips of an attack will most likely be unable to articulate what they need. So, a list of dos and don’ts ahead of time is very helpful.

Darragh’s handwritten list starts off with, “Know that I am scared and won’t be able to explain why, so please don’t freak out or be annoyed with me.”

She also tells him to grab her meds if they’re nearby and make sure she takes them.

One of the most important things is breathing, which she brings up over and over. She asks that he tries to lead her in breathing exercises and sync her to his breathing pattern, which will hopefully be much calmer.

Darragh writes that she can handle gentle suggestions for distracting activities, but if she says no to something he should listen—and not tell her what she should do.

Often during an attack, she’ll have a dissociative moment, meaning she feels disconnected from her life or body. Darragh asks that her boyfriend remind her of nice things in their lives together that will make her laugh, so she can remember who she is and where she’s at.

The list continues! Darragh asks that he be really nice to her during a panic attack, because she feels guilty and embarrassed for putting him through the whole ordeal, and those feelings just make it worse.

Sometimes she wants a “big, loose, long hug” to “feel safe.”

In general, a lot of Darragh’s tips boil down to “let me live.” It’s hardest to deal with a panic attack when you fight it or feel bad about yourself for having one.

“Empathize with me!” she writes.”You may not get it, but you get me!”

And just as importantly, Darragh says that in the aftermath (several hours later) they both need to talk about how things went, in case there’s something better that can be done later.

The response to the post has been huge, with almost 10,000 retweets and hundreds of comments from other people who experience anxiety and who have their own tips for how to deal with it from the outside.

There were also a lot of people who were learning about the severity of panic and anxiety attacks for the first time.

Though Darragh’s list is very specific to her condition, it’s a great example of how having open conversations when you’re not in crisis can mean you get the support you need down the line. Have an honest talk with your partner today!

Source : http://www.distractify.com/relationships/2018/06/05/1YtFq2/-anxiety-checklist-

Woman With Anxiety Makes Her Boyfriend A List For Of How To Deal With Her And People Need To Read It

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Lots of people grapple with anxiety, which can manifest in a variety of ways. One of the most terrifying aspects of an actual anxiety disorder are panic attacks, which can be triggered by a variety of things and actually shut down a person’s body. People often go to the hospital thinking they’re having a heart attack, when what is actually happening is a panic attack. That’s how scary and painful they are.

Buzzfeed writer Kelsey Darragh went viral for her comprehensive list on things that can be done to help during a panic attack for her boyfriend, but which she thinks could benefit anyone in a relationship with somebody who has anxiety. If you haven’t experienced it, it can be hard to know what to do. Someone in the grips of an attack will most likely be unable to articulate what they need. So, a list of dos and don’ts ahead of time is very helpful.

Darragh’s handwritten list starts off with, “Know that I am scared and won’t be able to explain why, so please don’t freak out or be annoyed with me.”

She also tells him to grab her meds if they’re nearby and make sure she takes them.

One of the most important things is breathing, which she brings up over and over. She asks that he tries to lead her in breathing exercises and sync her to his breathing pattern, which will hopefully be much calmer.

Darragh writes that she can handle gentle suggestions for distracting activities, but if she says no to something he should listen—and not tell her what she should do.

Often during an attack, she’ll have a dissociative moment, meaning she feels disconnected from her life or body. Darragh asks that her boyfriend remind her of nice things in their lives together that will make her laugh, so she can remember who she is and where she’s at.

The list continues! Darragh asks that he be really nice to her during a panic attack, because she feels guilty and embarrassed for putting him through the whole ordeal, and those feelings just make it worse.

Sometimes she wants a “big, loose, long hug” to “feel safe.”

In general, a lot of Darragh’s tips boil down to “let me live.” It’s hardest to deal with a panic attack when you fight it or feel bad about yourself for having one.

“Empathize with me!” she writes.”You may not get it, but you get me!”

And just as importantly, Darragh says that in the aftermath (several hours later) they both need to talk about how things went, in case there’s something better that can be done later.

The response to the post has been huge, with almost 10,000 retweets and hundreds of comments from other people who experience anxiety and who have their own tips for how to deal with it from the outside.

There were also a lot of people who were learning about the severity of panic and anxiety attacks for the first time.

Though Darragh’s list is very specific to her condition, it’s a great example of how having open conversations when you’re not in crisis can mean you get the support you need down the line. Have an honest talk with your partner today!

Source : https://www.distractify.com/relationships/2018/06/05/1YtFq2/-anxiety-checklist-

This Girl's Boyfriend Died A Month Before Prom, His Father Made Sure She Still Went

The worst part about life is that it ultimately ends. We all want that day to be as far as possible from all of us, which is why it’s always especially tragic when someone young passes away.

Sadly, Carter Brown’s parents had to endure that tragedy when they learned their 19-year-old son was involved in a fatal car crash.

He was driving from Indiana State University back to his hometown in Pennyslavania to surprise his girlfriend, Kaylee Sauders, a month before her senior prom.

Kaylee, along with Carter’s family were devastated by the news. How does one react to the sudden loss of somebody, especially a person you were in love with?

Understandably, Kaylee wasn’t interested in attending her senior prom, but Carter’s father didn’t want her to miss such an important moment in her life. So he came up with a brilliant idea.

Carter’s father asked Kaylee if he could take her to the prom so they could both honor the memory of Carter and so she wouldn’t have to miss her special day.

She immediately accepted, and the whole thing was incredibly touching.

“I didn’t have to think about it. I definitely said ‘yes’,” Kaylee told the Centre Daily Times.

Kaylee went on to say that if it wasn’t for Carter’s dad making the suggestion, she would’ve never thought to attend prom. 

“It meant a lot that he kind of stepped up and took the role, because it was my senior prom and I didn’t want to go any more,” she said.

Carter’s father made sure that Kaylee got a full pre-prom photoshoot experience as well. He started it off by rolling up in his car to pick her up.

For them to have something to smile and laugh about under the circumstances is amazing.

They got all of the prom poses down pat: you’ve got the car shots.

Along with the obligatory ridiculous stances.

When the photographer says, “let’s do a silly one” you want to roll your eyes, but come on, it’s basically a prom tradition.

Carter’s mother, Kelly O’Neil, shared the photos on her Facebook account with a funny and touching message.

She’s super proud of her husband and was struck by the beautiful gesture he came up with to both honor their son and ensure Kaylee got to attend her senior prom.

“He’s truly amazing, he is a gift. Carter was in college. He wasn’t super excited about going to a high school prom, but he was excited about doing that for Kaylee. … Rob didn’t like the idea of Kaylee not getting that.”

Carter’s father was basically making good on a promise that his son made to Kaylee, and the idea of a father doing that for his son, so soon after his passing, is enough to make you think people are chopping onions in the room. 

When Kaylee arrived at prom with Carter’s dad, everyone thought it was a beautiful gesture.

The Browns, unfortunately, have dealt with a lot of tragedy as of late.

Just seven months prior, in September 2017, their oldest son, Christopher Brown, passed away at just 23 years old.

“We lost Chris in September. Seven months apart, it’s an awful lot. This gave us something to be excited about. So that was also kind of a gift to have something fun to look forward to. It was big deal for all of us.”

For Kaylee and the Brown family, her senior prom was an event to get excited about after such terrible losses.

We can’t control what happens in our lives for the most part, but we can control our reactions. And this was a heck of a good one.

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